ok I have a question about one of my best friends. She has been dating this guy for almost 2 years now. He lived with her until July of last year. She has a son that is 8 years old and while she worked he would babysit for her. I guess her son didnt mind him so once he gave her son hot sauce and on another occasion he gave her son horseraddish sauce. When he told her about it she told him not to do it again. Well when her son wouldnt mind him again he made her son take a cold shower and then on another occasion while her son was taking a shower her son was wining about the water getting in his eyes the guy put his hands on her sons neck and pushed the boy into the water. It never left any marks. Well he had also got my friend behind in money to where she wrote out bad checks. Anyway she asked her mom for help and her mom took control kicking this man out and took her daughters checkbook well her daughter is 30 years old. This girls mother moved her and her son in with her and will not
2007-01-22 01:20:43 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he mother will not let her have access to any of her money. Her mother controls every thing she does and tries to tell her who she can see and what she can do.The guy is really sorry for what he done and has told his girlfriend that and said that he would never do it again and he is starting to pay back the money he owes her. They are trying to work things out and things are going good. The little boy has not seen this man since july and says he really misses him and wants to see him. Well This girls mother says that if she lets her son see this man then she is going to call social services and turn this guy in? Can they get in trouble? I know that it is wrong and they do too but the guy is sorry and this happened almost a year ago? Or is this mother trying to be a control freak?
2007-01-22 01:25:06 · update #1
First and foremost if she continues to see this man knowing that he was abusive to her son, she is being a fool. There is no call for what he did to the child just because he wasn't "minding" him. What happens when he has a child of his own if he can do this to a child that is not even his??? What happens when the baby won't stop crying when he wants it to?? See this for what it is and move on. As far as the mother goes, there is a thing called going over board and this is it. She has her grandson's best interest at heart but there are limits. Your friend can take control of the situation by closing the present checking account and opening a new one that her mother does not have access to. If the mother does not move, your friend can. You teach people how to treat you. By accepting the present situation she is showing her mother and her ex that this is ok and that they can continue to do so.
2007-01-22 01:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by madevali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously your friend has serious issues that ONLY she can fix.
You sound like a caring friend but be real here. Your friend needs to GROW UP!!!! Her mother controls things because she ALLOWS it and the b/f? TOTAL abusive loser!!!! People go to jail for allot less than what he has pulled no matter how far in the past it was.. it WILL happen again!!!!!!
Sorry sweety, there is nothing you can do to help until she is ready to be an adult.
2007-01-22 06:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by mom tree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called child molestation and this guy should back off. He should be lucky her mother didnt turn him in in the first place.
2007-01-22 01:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by Joyce R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋