whose man is not paying enough attention to them sexually...
Is is demoralising ?
Does it affect your self esteem?
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2007-01-22 00:42:02 · 12 answers · asked by Rebz 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have a high sex drive, he is the complete opposite.
I am 23, he is 34.. not sure if that is anything to do with it.
We live together, we have been together for 3 years.
It is normally me that instigates sex or intimacy.
2007-01-22 03:02:55 · update #1
Yes it does. I have that problem sometimes, I personally feel that if he doesnt want to have sex with me because I dont do something right or im not attractive enough. He could just have things on his mind. I have very low self esteem anyway, what he thinks of me means the world to me.
2007-01-22 00:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Takita F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. my husband and I have had these fights and like someone said before, I feel like maybe Ive not done something right.. I dont usually have low self esteem, not at all. Hes kinda my vulnerable spot though. Im pretty tough and can handle most anything but if I feel like I might lose him, it tears me up.. I probably read more into his actions (or lack thereof) then I should.. he works midnights and its hard.. I know what you mean though! The society in general is used to men wanting it all the time so when he doesnt we think something is wrong.. Sometimes some women want it more than men do!!
2007-01-22 09:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by PenguinsWife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage was like that.... He always wanted sex however but he was very demoralizing and mean and mentally abusive to me. This really affected my self esteem and hurt me for years. I never felt that he loved me and he was always looking at and lusting after other women. Needless to say i felt very low and never even wanted to clean my home. He had a bad temper too. That marriage ended in me leaving many times and doing things that i should not have done and he ended up taking his own life. Very tragic indeed and very sad. God has healed me of that and i now have been blessed with a wonderful husband who loves and cherishes me and treats me like a queen and we have a great marriage and relationship. God is so very good! My first husbands dad is very mean to his wife and other people and very self centered so I feel that is alot of the reason why he was the way he was.
2007-01-22 09:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend whose ex-husband didn't pay her enough attention & it really really affected her self esteem. He used to put a cushion between them in bed - how hurtful is that !! Needless to say they are not together anymore & she is so much more confident now that she is with someone else. If someone stops paying your attention it is bound to affect your self esteem. But ultimately you should be able to be happy being yourself & not need approval off other people.
2007-01-22 10:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by EmmaB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, a relationship goes both ways. Ask yourself are you paying enough attention to him. Marriage/Boy friend/ relationship is a full time job and both parties must work on the relationship. Bad or good, right or wrong. Start touching him!
Yes it would affect your self esteem, etc.. Talk!
2007-01-22 10:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by sbratt2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh I think you will be inundated with answers...
Its not just sexual attention that does that, its general attention, and thoughtfulness that most men do lack, more so after time. Suddenly your a Wife Mother Cleaner washerwoman, fixer Nurse Cook and bottle washer, and can manage to sort anything and everything,any wonder women loose self confidence
2007-01-22 08:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by Lulu T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally women don't pay men enough sexual attention! But men can do it too. If a man doesn't it's usually due to stress, lack of sleep, an energy sapping virus, or more commonly, boredom in the sack.... Hope that helps!
2007-01-22 08:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by T M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I finally realized after 3 years that my b/f wasn't really interested in satisfying me,I got out of the relationship.I told him before the New Years that he was killing my sexy and I wanted out.I had expressed these feelings before and expressed my desires and all fell on deaf ears ,so finally I just couldn't let this new year catch me in that same old situation and I feel like I'm getting my sexy back,I don't need to be a sex slave for some one who isn't a sex slave to me,so he's out the door.
2007-01-22 08:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, a lot of women let themselves go after marriage. Try to make sure this isn't the reason. Talk to him, maybe he's just stressed about something. The only way to resolve this is by talking to your husband. Best of luck!
2007-01-22 09:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is such a wide spread problem, I know at least three close friends with the same problem, and yes it has knoecked them for six.
2007-01-22 10:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by kez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋