My ex and I have been apart since mid september. Here it is
a new year a few months later. I have left him alone, sure in the
beginning I called did the breakup calls, but for the past couple
months I have left him alone. I am trying to heal, but he keeps
calling, different messages each time...i have a few of his things
still, but I gave him back the bulk of all his stuff. I have never gotten
any of my things back, NOTHING! Do I ask him why he keeps
calling, he says it is to get the 2 things left i have of his..trust
me his life is not on hold for the 2 little things I have..Is he holding
on for a reason? My head is all messed up, what does he want
from me?
2007-01-22 00:38:44 · 7 answers · asked by wicktjw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its just a ploy for him to still get in touch with you. You're saying that you want to heal but since he keeps calling it becomes a hinder for you. He is just being selfish. He is trying to get beck into your life because he has not find one to replace you. Do not have any communication with him if you really want to move on. It will only hurt you if one day you found out that he already has a girlfriend. Just move on first and if its really the two of you don't worry it will be.
2007-01-22 00:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by Princess Shai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through a similar situation and found that if you are truly done with this relationship then you have to set some guide lines and stick with them. No matter what. By not answering when he calls or better yet change the number if possible. Give back the two items that belong to him then he won't be able to use that for an excuse for contacting you. As for your belongings, are they really that important to you or just a way of maybe for you to keep in contact with him? Step back and think about what attracted you to him in the first place, and realize that no one is perfect and sometimes people just don't belong together, and then find a way to be able to stay maybe friends or at least Sybil on certain topics. Hopefully things will work out because anger or resentment will not resolve anything. Good Luck!
2007-01-22 01:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by popeye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you know relationships, ex or not are complicated. I would meet with him if it were me with the "2 little things he left" and ask him to bring the things that you left at his home. Maybe this could be productive for both of you. Not to get back together necessarily, but have a constructive conversation, without insults so you can both clear the air. The bottom line is that no matter WHO you get involved with, the same issues come up with different people. Why? Because they are our issues and we are here to learn in my opinion. It would be very cool if you could objectively ask him what character issues of yours he had a problem with. BUT he has to be willing to hear your feedback as well for it to be productive. Obviously you still have feelings and so does he. What people say and what they do are often quite different. You know that. Also when someone is coming from their ego and is afraid of being hurt, they put up a smoke screen...suddenly the "two little things" are life and death matters...LOL!!! And you know that is not true. Just remember if you do take my first suggestion you may continue to interact with him...and maybe that is not the worse thing for either one of you unless their was profound abuse verbal or physical. If that was the case then for your own safety and personal growth simply mail him the "two little things" Good luck!
2007-01-22 00:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say what he's up to. Just remember that you are in control of what happens from here. If you are over it, then give him back his things and be done with it. It sounds like ignoring him has intrigued him as it does with us guys sometimes. Where it goes from here is totally up to you. Just remember why you guys broke up and think hard about if it's worth it or not.
2007-01-22 01:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to see if he is truly playing with you is for u to return the 2 minor things that you have of his. If he continues to call after you return them then yes he is playing with your head.
2007-01-22 00:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by totally ignored 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he is a very stingy ridiculous person who must must have his things, or he only wants to see you. You have to decide. If you dont want to see him mail them to him. If you want your things back set something up and make a trade. My thoughts are that he wants to see YOU and its not about his "things". Its up to you if you are willing to do that. Please keep in mind that you broke up for a reason, dont forget about the reasons, and if you dont want to get back with him and think you might cave then its probably best to just put them in the mailbox. goodluck.
2007-01-22 00:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him back everything so he doesn't have any excuse for calling. Change your number, he is messing with your head and you need to stop him doing it. You need to be determined in order to prevent him from filling your thoughts. Decide you're not going to 'let him in' and mentally prepare yourself not to take in his crap.
2007-01-22 00:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋