Can I be angry?

Question

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 9 months now, with no luck so far. My sister accidentally got pregnant (and married the guy). Anyways, she and I are very close. I have told her many times before the baby names that my husband and I have already chosen for our children (whenever we finally conceive). Well, now she has decided to name her baby the name that I had chosen. I feel very betrayed. Her best friend did the same thing to her years ago and my sister never forgave her. How could she do the same to me? Should I just forget about it, or am I right to feel this way?

Answer 1

i think i would be a little bit hurt as well talk to her and she what she says she probably not trying to hurt you are you sure she knew you wanted these names and you weren't just saying the names you like sit down and have a chat if shes anything like my daughter she had at least 20 different names so far so there are chances she will change her mind

Answer 2

I completely understand why you would be irritated. Say something to her now before she names the baby because otherwise it will be to late.

I have this feeling that one of my best friends is going to name her baby the name that I have "claimed" for my next child. We don't plan on having another one for at least a year or more. Every time I try to talk about baby names she will mention one or two that are very similiar but then changes the subject. It is my fault though...I ran my mouth and told her our names.

If she chose the name on her own then there is nothing you can do. You don't have the "rights" to the name but copying is just frustrating.

Again, mention it to her but if she uses it then let it go. This means that it isn't the perfect name for you guys and you'll find something better.

Take Care and Good Luck, I hope you are pregnant soon! SD

Answer 3

I would be angry. Yes, I can definitely see why you would be VERY angry at her. Tell her how you feel. You can't make her change it, but if she chooses not to, ask her why it's so important to her to use these particular names. Is there some underlying sense of anger that she has toward you that she wants to hurt you?

If she refuses to change it, as I said, there's not much you can do. You can either use the names or try to find something else, but don't let this put a strain on your relationship forever. Family is more important than something like this. Forgive her. Obviously her doing something like this shows that she's got some issues. I feel sorry for her that she needs to grab attention in this way.

Answer 4

My mother allegedly did the same thing to her sister with my name! Talk to her about it and tell her your feelings. Luckily there are many beautiful strong names out there to chose from so maybe one of the two of you can compromise. That being said, if it is a truly original name it would stink to "lose" it. There can't be two boys named Thorn in the family but if it's one of the names of the moment: Aiden Jacob Zachary, you kind of can't be too hurt b/c most of America is naming there babies these names. In the least, you can always make a big deal out of the fact that you named her baby!
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Answer 5

That was a really mean thing for her to do. I wouldn't get angry with her though - just feel good inside that you were able to think of a better name than she was. She must have really loved it to wanna use it for her own baby.

I would just say to her some day - when you are surrounded with other family members and friends - that you " feel really honoured that she decided to use the baby name that you had chosen" - then smile. :-)

She probably won't want to argue about it in front of everybody - and you will get the satisfaction of them all knowing what she did. And just think about how in the future you can enjoy telling your niece all about how you named her, just to rub it in. lol

Answer 6

I would be very upset too! However, I would talk to her. Maybe she doesn't realize that she has chosen a name that you had already told her you wanted to use! Either way, this could be a thorn in your side for the remainder of your lives and you don't want it to be! Talk to her and explain how hurt you are, maybe she will understand and hte two of you can come to an understanding!
Good luck!

Answer 7

My sister in law did the same thing to us, and they acted liked they didn't do anything. Her and I were pregnant at the same time, and I had told them since the beginning that we were going to name it Shelby if it was a girl, (the name my hubby wanted). I ended up having a miscarriage, and she gave birth to a daughter and named her Shelby. My mother in law, let them know that we were going to us that name and they should have named their child something else. I never told them how I felt. I ended up pregnant 6 months later and gave birth to a daughter, so my hubby was a little upset that we could not use the name we had picked before. Oh well, I have a beautiful little Reece Gabriella and glad that we didn't name her Shelby, because Reece fits my little redhead perfectly.

Answer 8

Tell her that she has no right to do this. Remind her of how hurt she felt when her friend did it to her & tell her thats exactly what she has done to you. You need to stand your ground on this because it is something that is important to you. DO NOT let anyone... not even your sister... walk all over your feelings!

Good Luck with everything & I hope your lives are blessed with a little blessing of your own very soon. ;-)

Answer 9

I would talk to her, This is something that needs to be worked out because this is not a good way to loose a sister. I think that she has a problem and you need to ask her why she does this. Now I would call your Doctor because You need to find out why you haven't conceived yet.

Answer 10

You should be angry. My aunt pick out my name for her next daughter but I was born sooner so my mom used the name that her sister wanted to use. I know I would be mad if someone did that to me. By the way my name is Amanda Kay.