I met my boyfriend 8 months ago at a gym that is very popular in the gay community. The gym's sauna room is the place where gay men sneak around to make out. My gym membership has expired for 6 months now but his membership will go for another year. Going to the gym is his daily routine, but he only takes shower and rest in the sauna room. I can't help suspect him often fools around with other men in the gym even though he is nice and sometimes affectionate to me. I don't think it's possible to ask him to give up the gym membership or not going to the gym so often, therefore I didn't heckle him at all whethere he fooled around in the gym or not. We don't live togethere. Our relationship is going fine as I don't ask about the gym and he doesn't mention the gym at all either. I am insecured by the possibility of his gym sex; but I don't know if I should ask him, cuz I don't think it's possible to ask him not going to the gym. I'm therefore gloomy sometimes and he has to suffer it.
2007-01-22 00:22:29 · 11 answers · asked by Edificios 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He only goes to the gym take saunas' and a shower every day but doesn't work out.Okay I can see going to take a sauna every few days or once a week and don't you guys have a shower at home. Like may be I'm wrong, but hello 1 shower + 1sauna every day at a gay club that is very popular in a gay community where very few to no straight guys go and girls/woman go to work out so they don't ogled by guys at other gyms = 2 gay in the closet, may be bisexual or can't admit to him self/ friends he's gay.A lot of guys have girl friends to cover up. By the way are you having safe sex, time to get a check up. Try this I had a guy say to me take a look at your finger nails not thinking about the trap, I turned my palm toward me and closed my fingers. He said guys who are feminine look at their finger nails with the back of their hands facing you. His girl friend couldn't believe he did that to me and I didn't know it was a trick. Try it!
2007-01-22 02:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you even asked him whether or not he continues to fool around with other guys since you've been together? There may b a discrepancy in what you are expacting from your relationship with him and what he thinks you both have going on.
I would suggest that you need to have this conversation with him. You both need to know where each the other stands. Your being gloomy won't help your relationship with him and if he thinks that you are the person he wants to be with, then he'll either give up that gym or bring you along with him.
2007-01-22 00:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust thats all you can do...when he starts to change habbits or maybe doing things differently then you have the chance to bring it up to him, letting him know how you feel, because of the sudden change....on a safer note be careful and wear protection never the less, because "IF" he is fooling around at least your safe and wont catch anything....
Best wishes and Good luck!!
2007-01-22 00:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you do have to trust him..or otherwise you'll always be gloomy.
Think of the brighter side. Your boyfriend is obviously very soaped and lathered, clean and sparkly and his skin must be awesome after all those saunas.
2007-01-22 00:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to trust him, ask him to put your mind at ease, ask him why he needs to just go to shower & sauna each day, why can't he workout, shower & sauna.
Tell him your worries, if he makes a song & dance about this then you have worries.
2007-01-22 00:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mike J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be goin to the gym to look nice and fit to you! you are his boyfriend.
But if you really dont trust him, you can go to the gym with him sometimes and also when you say you want to go with him you can understand if that will disturb him or not by observing him and his reaction.
2007-01-22 00:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by sj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could renew your gym membership. Or talk to him honestly. Tell him you know what goes on there and is he doing anything. Hopefully, he won't lie to you and if he does, you'll know it. But you should learn to be more trusting.
2007-01-22 00:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sharyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really wanna know secretly renew your membership or get a few guest passes and check up on him,but don't let him see you until u catch him in the act if he's cheating
2007-01-22 02:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by blueflash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is all about trust, so you have to trust him. If you do not trust him you'll have to renew for a little and go with him
2007-01-22 02:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One solution is make sure he never has to look anywhere else for love an attention.
2007-01-22 03:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋