I've been in a platonic relationship with a guy friend but it hasn't worked out. He doesn't respect me or my friendship. I asked him if I cause all the problems in the relationship and he said "exactly." I knew this wasn't true and basically said "If you don't want my respect, I can take it elsewhere." Now tensions are high between each other; how do I act around him; what do I say? I'm in three of his classes, and we're working on a project together.
2007-01-21 23:44:15 · 7 answers · asked by Caroline O 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A WOMAN SHOULD BE RESPECTED AT ALL TIME. CALL A SPADE A SPADE LET HIM KNOW YOUR FEELINGS.
2007-01-21 23:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kwadwo B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you ask him if you caused all the problems in the relationship, when you knew it wasn't true? you gave him a perfect out. you are the one that said i will take my respect elsewhere. again, you gave him the perfect out. i'd just act like i would around anyone else at school that i knew but wasn't in a close friendship. same with the project, you have to put disagreements aside and do the work as classmates that were assigned a project together. remember, you asked the questions of him, and he gave you honest answers. maybe, as the two of you are working on this project, he tell you he didn't mean those harsh words he said to you. but, if he doesn't, remember who asked the questions.
2007-01-22 08:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should always just act yourself. You have no reason to even interact with him - except for when it pertains to the completion of the project. Once that's done, you don't have to maintain contact with him at all. Just because he's in your classes, doesn't mean you have to have any form of relationship with him.
Make other friends who want to be there for you in the same ways you want to be there for them. Friends who respect you as much as you respect them. Also, remember that respect is earned, don't go around giving your respect to just everybody. I suspect what you really mean is care/concern. With those as well, be choosy about who you offer your care and concern too. PPeople will often mistake kindness for weakness and abuse you for your willingness to be there for them.
So just be you, get through the project, and be more choosy!
2007-01-22 07:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bad Friend ?!! ,,,, With a friend like him you certainly don't need a enemy ,,,, What you do is just be yourself ,,,, You can't make him feel anything he doesn't want to feel ,,,, Do what you have to do as far as this project is concerned and don't let it worry you ,,,, Keep things on a business like level with him and that's it ,,,, As far as a relationship of any kind with him? ,,,, You need this guy like you need another hole in the head or a boken leg ,,,, There are allot of fish in the pond ,,,,, Go fishing ,,,, see what and who's out there ,,,,, don't be so willing to tie yourself down to just one person so early in life ,,,,,Try to get as wide a range of acquaintances as you can while you are young ,,,, this will enable you to make a wiser choice when you are ready for a more involed relationship later on ,,,,, Who knows ,,,, tying yourself down too early just might cause you to miss meeting Mr Right later on ,,,, As for this lame brain you are asking about ,,,, Don't worry about him ,,,, He's just another jerk in a sea of jerks ,,,, Like I said earlier ,,,,,,, go fishing and find people that are fun and exciting to be around ,,,, they are out there and probably most of them come problem and trouble free ,,,,, Just don't let this goof ball get you down ,,,, He's no ones lord and master ,,,, least of all yours ,,,,, Be civil with him but don't take any crap from him either ,,,, You weren't put on this earth to be anyones whipping post ,,,,, Let him know that too ,,,,, Good luck
2007-01-22 10:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard situation u have..maybe u should tell him Ur honest feeling..dint get emotional and don't expect him to give u an honest answer too. i know its tough but u should act as usual to him, show him that u respect him not like he did to you. and hopefully soon u'll see what kind of friend is him and whether he is good to be Ur friend or not. good luck!
2007-01-22 07:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by nonisu_9591 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what a jerk, you have to stop trying, stop doing all the work in this friendship, you can be nice to him but i think he is taking your friendship for granted. just dont act like you care, your too good to be treated like that by someone your being good to.
2007-01-22 07:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by demonized 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just talk to him like how you would talk to your friends. Maybe that will help. Just don't talk about girl stuff.
2007-01-22 07:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by Caitlyn C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋