when can u be sure of ur love to someone .. whom if u used logic to love him/her it defenitly wouldnt work..
i mean is there Psychologically signs prove that ur love is true or not
2007-01-21 23:38:53 · 10 answers · asked by B for bernadetta 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have heard it said that love is a decision AND a commitment all at the same time. Feelings get us there, but feelings rise and fall, come and go.
2007-01-21 23:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always wondered the same thing? I never liked hearing "You'll just know." Before I found the person I married I didn't understand what that meant.
When I found him - I did know... sort of. Falling in love was just the icing on the cake. I wanted to find out all I could about him before I decided to marry.
Not only did I look to how he treated me, but what his goals were, his work ethic, how he treated his family members and especially his mom (that's a good indication of how he'll treat you). Did he have any friends? What were his friends like. Did he want kids and when...
Of course we didn't talk about this on our first date! I just sat back and observed most of these things and yes - we talked about some.
Everyone thinks differently. Some with their heart - some with their head. I feel lucky that I thought with both. Not only do I love the man I married, but we also work together logically. We are good for each other. We accept each others faults.
Not sure how far you are looking into this question? Just a question of love and dating? Then - sit back, relax and just enjoy the relationship! If you aren't in any hurry - and there's no commitment - you'll know in time if you want to continue a relationship.
Hope that helps! Good luck!
2007-01-22 08:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely use logic when defining love and making a decision about your future. For example, I'm engaged not just because of the way I 'feel' infact, people who love eachother don't always like eachother or feel 'in love'. Love is not really a feeling although it might make us feel good. I'm engaged because I've made a concious choice to be with my partner for the rest of our lives. Yes, we enjoy being together and yes, we often 'feel' good to be with eachother, but the main reason (key word here) that we're getting married is because we work well together. We share common priorities and goals in life. Our personalities mesh. Reason and logic and concious decision making is behind all sucessful 'true love'.
2007-01-22 07:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first time he walked up to me and shook my hand and told me his name he walked off and I knew that he was the man that I would marry. When I was away from him all I could do was think about him, I would hyperventilate, I would cry, I was sick to my stomach. I just had this big empty hole in my heart---- I knew that I could not go on without him. Well, these feelings began right after I met him and lasted for along time because when we first met we dated on and off.
I never believed in Love at first sight till him.
That was almost 7 years ago. We have been together for 6 years and married almost 5 years and have 2 beautiful boys. When you are in love YOU will know it.
2007-01-27 00:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by Angela L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is an emotion and does not originate in mind but rather spirit/ true self. Mind, I feel gives us the illusion that love is sub-divisible (to give logic to love) because mind functions within the constraints of our senses while love comes from an inner, deeper understanding and recognition of things beyond the minds grasp. Have you heard of the saying "love is blind"?
2007-01-22 07:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by kahahius 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to see if the men you think you love is love are not you two most have communication you guys have to comprejend each other. and if you are not shyaround hem are could tell abry thing to heam and you have a physicalatraction then thats love . love some times could be your friend.
2007-01-22 07:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! You see the person as the most important and the most beautyful ever. You dream of her/him every day and always want to be close to that person.
2007-01-22 07:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by Zico 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love the one that loves you.
2007-01-26 10:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by pnn177 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never can be sure,you must only believe that's really true
2007-01-22 09:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by janinka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"You know your love is true when you cant fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams" -michael de lima
2007-01-22 07:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by mhikedelima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋