We are "separated". I say that because he is at our house about 5 days a week and spends the night at least 2 times. So, why doesn't he just break his lease and come home?
2007-01-21 23:35:26 · 15 answers · asked by blue eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There must have been a good reason your marriage got to this point,it sounds to me like your marriage is ending slowly and painfully.
if you kicked him out,maybe your husband does not want to be in that position again of being thrown out on the street,(not a good feeling),and now that he has found his independence,maybe he likes it,and it isn't so bad,probably better than living with you out of fear you will do it again.
2007-01-21 23:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My guess is he still needs his space, perhaps he is fearful that should he terminate his lease and return home full time the issues that led to the separation will resurface. Give it time, many relationships work much better this way. Seeing he is present so often appears that he is committed to you however just like the cave man needs time alone in his cave. This is very common behavior , dont fret just make sure that the issues that led to the separation are being addressed and go from there
2007-01-22 07:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he, well, has his "cake" and eats it too. He is not obligated to come home, because there is no need to. He's at the house five times a week; then he spends two nights there. And I suspect that there is a "friends with benefits" package. You are in stasis, because you haven't spoken up, gotten counseling together, or made an ultimatum. Does he have a girlfriend? Have you sat down with him and expressed your feelings? If he's there that often, it's time for a heart to heart talk, with a heaping deal of honesty thrown in. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-22 07:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you told him you want him to come home and stay?
If you have and he doesn't have a good reason or he is using the lease as an excuse--Then he is just stringing you along.
And maybe if you tell him he has to make a choice now, he will come home or end it. He can sublet the apartment.
Don't let him do this to you. tell him either come back all the way or go away.
2007-01-22 09:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he going through a mid-life crisis? I want to say he has cold feet.............. I guess it also could depend on why you two seperated in the first place. He could break his lease.
(hey harry you are not funny anymore) s h i t h e a d
forgive my language yall' ole' Harry is really shootin the bull today! I have seen him on here several times with smart *** remarks.
2007-01-22 07:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by kathleen_martin8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you so worried about what he is doing? he's doing what he wants to do. besides...breaking a lease costs much more money than you realize. what about doing what you want to do? why are you sitting at home waiting for him when you could be out there living your own life (without him)? make a choice. but don't just sit there misrable. go out...hang with your friends...get some hobbies...just do something for you.
2007-01-22 07:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he isn't happy being at home with you. Or perhaps he just needs time alone. Or maybe he's having an affair. Could be a number of reasons for this type of behavior.
My guess is if he's not having an affair, he's looking for one.
2007-01-22 07:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-one but your husband can answer this. Are you sure he is not eating his cake and having it? Maybe you need to give him an ultimatum - stay with you and work on your relationship, or stay away.
2007-01-22 07:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is not ready yet. maybe u two have some issues that he feels u both need to work on. ask him why he doesn't come home.
2007-01-22 07:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably needs to escape every now and again to keep his individuality. Trust me, I know the feeling.
2007-01-22 19:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋