I know this guy for 10 years now. But I have not seen him for 5 years. He is in the US and I am in India. He has postponed his trip to India nearly 5 times now. It is very hard for me to trust him.Moreover, he never has any time for me. There are days when I am dying to talk to him and he is not there. He is so careless and irresponsible at times. I have been dreaming of a stable life with him but I see that going nowhere.Of late I have become abusive with him and feel guilty later. Is this natural.
2007-01-21 23:29:12 · 11 answers · asked by Sanu 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He calls me each time and scolds me for being abusive and says he wants to spend his life with me. I do not know. I am so confused. He had some genuine problems which prevented him from coming to India. But at the same time he shud have spent more time with me whenever possible, which he never did either. I almost bought my wedding clothes et al, hoping to get married to him. I am so heartbroken.
2007-01-21 23:48:03 · update #1
He says he cannot spend his life with somebody who is abusive to him. But he does not reaise what has made me like this. I was never like this before. I wasted 10 years of my life for him and it is just too hard for me to move on. But I guess I have to.
2007-01-21 23:49:42 · update #2
Your anger is natural, but at the same time I admire your patience of waiting for so many years for him.
How can you be sure that he still wants to have relation with you when you have not met for 5 years.
I think he is careless and insensitive, do you still feel that he would be able to take care of you even if you get married to him?
Break up with this guy, Be confident of yourself, and move on with your life, may be something happier is waiting for you.
2007-01-22 00:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi dear , this is a question to u r life. ask u r parents to speak with him. jus some of ur good frends and well wishers of u who can analyse people. once u speak to him face to face and then jus think of. u shud not feel later on in u r life that u misses him. jus think of dear take the agreement of u r parents and well wishers and jus ask someone who are there at his place in US. just enquire about him dear . there is no problem. afterall this is your life. find out in your niebourhood and in ur frends so that any one is there in that place so that u can enquire abt him. ALL THE BEST DEAR
2007-01-22 14:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by sweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I guess. You, it's totally natural. I'd get hurt and stuff too. Perhaps that other side is unsure, or he just can't come up with a break-up conversation. I think..........
2007-01-22 07:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Cherant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it looks like he is not interested in your anymore. Don't break your heart, but move on. These are all part and parcel of the life for which you shouldn't spoil your life.
Cheers.
2007-01-22 07:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by jaggie_c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
failures , unsatisfaction happens only when people do one thing that is
" having faith or trust 100% over others "
don't keep 100 % trust on others so that you can't feel too much for many things if it go on wrong way
2007-01-22 10:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Appas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! That's very natural, just take it easy, you are not the first one, the guy simply does'nt find you attractive any more.
2007-01-22 07:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by Zico 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is totally natural dear......b'coz u have waited 4 5 whole years and now he is trying to avoid u......so its very natural....i wud suggest u to directly ask him if he's seeing sum other gal......
2007-01-22 07:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by me_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for who you or him? It's totally natural for you. As for him it's pretty natural too, i'm guessing he's cheating.
2007-01-22 07:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by Gen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you give a minimum time to wait him and afterward you take a decition
2007-01-22 09:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has moved on.
2007-01-22 07:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋