15yrs old daughter have an affair how to communicate with her &she hates me also?

Answer 1

Need more info.
Who is she having an affair with?
A teacher?
A guy her own age?
A married person?
Sorry to be so blunt but youve given no info!

Answer 2

Fifteen year old girl didnot hate you suddenly. First findout the reason why she hates you. In her mind she is expecting from you something as a father. But i hope who were not fulfilled her desire. I have studied psychology At the age of fifteen the mind goes where the affection and love were shown to her. She was disturbed mentally by something. So take her to good psychologist. She is having love affair at this age. It shows yourself and your wife have not taken proper care. Spend lot of time with your daughter. Show affection and love her. Its not the problem of your daughter. The problem is with in you. So you first change yourself and your daughter will slowly starts to change. Divert her mind in what she likes. eg. books, music, listening to songs so many. But not the bad movies. This affair may be an impact of some movies. At this age they dont know to see knowledge of good and bad. If they like something they feel that its good. Because she hates you so its not good if you speak to her. Better go for councelling. If a third person speaks to her she will be open to say something. But make sure dont get angry at any cause. This may lead her to take dangerous decisions.

Answer 3

Darlin- she certainly DOES NOT hate you! She is a teenager and that is even worse than the terrible 2s. Sit down with and talk to her. Spill your gutts- u have noghing to loose. She may feel as though she doesnt have enough freedom and its some boy that is messing her world up right now. Let her know u are always there for her and no matter what it is the two of you can get thru it all. Just constantly make sure she knows she is loved!

Answer 4

ok, i visit a baptist church and right that's my opinion. God made us with unfastened-will and actually everyone could make their own judgements. because of the fact his daughter grow to be in touch in promiscuos habit would not precisely mean that he condoned it or perhaps knew approximately it for that fact. a sturdy, God-fearing guy is not any much less of a believer if his daughter is pregnant. different than that, I firmly have self assurance that God has a plan for all of this. He further this being pregnant into this woman's existence for a reason and has a objective for all of it. we are to "love the sinner yet hate their sin". i in my opinion do no longer think of he could desire to be kicked off. interior the top however, i could propose which you pray approximately it and ask the Lord to furnish you some perception as to what He needs from you in this occasion. P.S. you're transforming into greater powerful luck posting this interior the religion or family members section.

Answer 5

The daughter is not belong to one , both husband and wife have same right to give guideline to . If yur daugher hating means not getting the clear picture, in which base she used you to hate, in which reason lying of this emotion it based . The daugher hating is not take the face value, do your thing to her rightly is important. The affair is fare which is keeping evaulate first and according to meet the things in right direction, if tis fare talk with both and take both parents this front and let allow them to lead happy , lovely life hmmm, this simple things not to keep in mind to.be brave
The man tackle the lion, elephent like animals, so this especially your daughter tackle is not a big thing mam

Answer 6

You make her understand the probles of having an affair at such a small age. Win her confiance by supporting her with your care ,love and affection.Tell her as she grows up she can have an affair now it is her time to study and achieve something.

Answer 7

I agree, more information needed.

However, I'm 15 also, and I can tell you right now, she's gonna continue to hate you if you attack her about the whole situation, sit her down, talk to her, try to understand her point of view, as messed up as it may be. I'm guessing she's letting herself become involved with older men because of a lack of a father firgure?! Same thing happened with me. Try to help her with her problem, not punish her because of it. That will make her do nothing but 'hate' you more. Hope I helped.

Answer 8

mam i don't know the attachement of u and ur daughter but mam just think why do she hate u so much is there any thing wrong from ur side of sharing love to her if ur a appomplied it's another thing but mam now atleast u wake up dont feel about ur economical status and try to talk with her whole heartedly and try to give her gifts like books which describe mother's love if u don't know where she lives right now ask any one of her dear friends mam god is there to to help u
trust in him a do what u can do
may god bless u and ur daughter

Answer 9

dear friend,if she hates you that means there is some bad experiences in her past in the family,or some internal fights in the family,or both the parents are working,which makes children fell to indepandent at an early age.make some other lady in your family talk to her,try to find out her exact problem with the family.take her to to some lady docter so that she has a good knowledge about her own safety.or go the other way be friend the boy find out more about him, take him in trust he will solve your problem.if the boy is in bad company it is a problem, or else forget it.the actual problem is within the family ,get it solved first.

Answer 10

Hi Saheen,

It is really not a himalayan task. Even if she hates you, she is your daughter after all. So, stop worrying. Just follow some simple steps.

First of all, your daughter is a teen. Every teen loves to rebel. So, Do not try to stop her what she is doing. (You may ask - What!) But that is the key. The more you try stoping her, the more she gets aggressive.

Secondly, the reason she finds the affair, interesting is because, she feels loved. She feels attended to. She feels appreciated.

Ask yourself, is she getting these virtues from you in an everyday basis. Are you reasonably showing your love, and affection. I think, a girl needs a lot of love from her Dad too. What is your husband doing? Is he busy with work not spending time with her? Then get him to go on a date with your daughter. (Don't stare at me for using the word "dating" for the time your dad supposed to spend your daughter. "Date" is supposed to be a time two individuals pay full attention to each other, appreciate the time with each other - not done as a duty - I hope you get my point right) Or try a double date with her, means, both you and your husband take her out. Just to enjoy the time with her.

May be you should stop complaining about her, you may find a lot of words of appreciation. Try to understand her point in every arguement you are about to start.

Your daughter is not evil. Neither she is ruthless. If you learnt the art of listening to her, she is an angel. The affair is nothing.

Once you have done a lot of such listening initiatives. Gently find out from her about who the boy/guy/man is. Enquire about his life and family without trying to pass judgement about that person. Ask her gently what are the virtues and values they have in their friendship. (Never term it as affair - or - love - just call it a friendship)

Try taking your entire family to the boys house for a friendly visit. Or invite the boy's entire family to your home for festival. (But do not accept anything less than his entire family)

Possitively encourage her friendship. Try discussing with her about her future. (Do not bring in the boy in such discussions) Encourage her to be friendly with everyone not just with him.

If she thinks she is in love with the boy, Teach her about safe sex. (Don't get angry for suggesting this - If you don't teach her, she is going to try sex anyway behind your back) Tell her how wonderful your first time with your own husband as a married couple (I am just assuming - you too were just a virgin before marriage and your first time with your husband was your first night!! If not at least tell her how you felt at your first time and what risks it involved)

Talking about sex or a relationship with your daughter is not a bad idea. The more and more you are open about your teenage struggles she is going to respect you. But whatever confessions you make, underline them with the deep regret for the mistakes you did at your age. (Otherwise, she is going to get new ideas and methods of doing wrong)

Get confident. Do your best to be real. Relax. Be cool and learn to listen.

Angry or judgemental reactions to her hurtful words or behaviour only will distance you from your daughter. Understand she is just at her soft and tender age, both her body and mind are not matured. It takes a skill of an artist to craft the mind to what you desire. But you can do it.

Give her freedom and trust her. When you think she will fail, teach her about what precautions she should take. How to face life at a junction like this.

I can keep going on.. as a mother, trust your instincts. Let your conscience lead you. Do not punish her for a mistake for which you would not be willing to accept a punishment.

I hope you win the battle. Try pull your husband into this, fight the battle together. After all she is your beautiful daughter and you love her the most!