Mediation is likely to fail. She wants all the power of what direction the raising of our girls is to take. She belittles me to the girls and down talks our way of life to them. I just want to be able to see my girls more than the 3 nights a fortnight she allows me to have them. I would like to resolve this situation asap without it getting messy for anyone involved.
2007-01-21 22:40:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you're asking for is a miracle. You should be able to visit your children every weekend and 8-10 weeks in the summer and every other major holiday. If you live close enough to your children your visitation should be modified to the point that the children are welcome to your home any time.
You X- is the one that has the problem and is harboring anger and resentment ----professional counseling is needed for this.
If you X continues her displays of anger, belittlement, resentment towards you there will come a day where your children will be old enough to decide for themselves what they want in life. They will end up resenting their MOM or DAD whomever has custody.
Go into mediation with a positive outlook and don't except anything but positive out of whatever it is the mediator is trying to accomplish with you both. It is really to bad you both can't work things out without getting the courts and an outside intervention to help with your lack of communication with one another!
2007-01-21 22:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Cliffe055!
It is not an easy situation.
Try not to look at what you want or what your wife wants.
In the early years a mother is the teacher until a child reaches the terrible teens when the hormones are raging this is where father needs to step in and usurp his influence.
Children in the early years need a mother nuturing and teaching women are natural teachers.
Girls have an emotional connection to their father that no one can remove.
Respect their mother as this is a great teacher to them and one day you will be adored by these young ladies.
Boys have the emotinal tie with the mother but they see the manly viewpoint of the father as they get older.
one day you will say "where did these years go they moved so fast.
The time you have with them make it quality time something they can take home with them and at night when tucked in by mum they can go to sleep with beautiful memories of your time together.
Children need to feel protected.
When your not with me my love is with you it is inside your heart.
And Your love is with me.
Be good for your mother.
Trust me it will pay off!.
Take care!
2007-01-22 07:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it is probably going to take some time + yelling matches. I know this because my x dumped me and fought for
full custody. I fought it until she only had joint custody nothing
else. You have every right to help raise your kids don't give up!
2007-01-22 07:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by Williamstown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What responses do u expect? If pursuation fails, the only remedy is court.
2007-01-22 06:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋