I just found out that I am pregnant and I have to start a post graduate year long course next month and just started a new part-time job. I dont know whether I can do everything at once and my partner isn't convinced either. Has anyone had any similar experiences? Please let me know how you did!
2007-01-21 22:38:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You need someone to look after the baby all the time you'll be at college/uni. This will either have to be unpaid (your partner, your family), or paid (nanny, creche).
So, do you have someone to care the the baby, or do you have the money to pay for someone to care for the baby?
If the answer to both of these is no, then you might have to put your course on hold for a couple of years.
2007-01-21 22:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by mark 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have never been in your situation as we have infertility issues but I know many people who have been and you can manage it.
it will be hard and if you only work part time depending if your partner is in full time employment money may be tight if you only work part time, obviously timing is pretty bad if you are in a post gard course as the baby will arrive before the end, so it may be difficult to finish the course unless you can work from home.
No one can tell you what to do you have to look at your situation and decide what is right for you. the only thing I would advice is to not only look at it through practical eyes but also what you want in your heart. If deep down you really want this baby, then you will find a way of coping, if terminating is an option you are considering then make sure you are 100% sure I know so many that do this and then regret it and is hard to deal with. On the other hand if you decide that is the best option for you then do not let anyone tell you it is wrong. Its your life and you have the right to decide.
I'm sorry I probably havent been much help, noone can tell you what to do, but I wish you all the best whatever you decide
2007-01-22 07:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by sianmog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant on the 2nd year of my 2nd college course, i completed that and at 8 months pregnant i started a HND at the same college, they were very supportive and when my sson came along i worked at home for three months then he came with me, it wasn't easy and i look back and wonder how i coped...i was a single mum...but i did it. I think if you want something badly you can do it if you put your mind to it.
My son was in nursery from 9.30 am - 230/3pm and i was able to go see him every break/lunch, i didnt miss first teeth, steps,crawling anything and i'm also now a qualified graphics designer.
When i completed college i then just spent time bringing my son up, hes 4 now 5 in october and goes to school in september, I'll be able to go out and get a job and support us properly. People think you can go back and take time out, but from my experience i say do it while you want to or you'll get so into being mum full time you'll never go back :)
Hope this helps
I have msn if you would like to talk some more
bradley-emma@hotmail.com
2007-01-22 12:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by emma b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your partner are wanting this baby so bad then you will be able to get thru this. I have a 8 month old son. I am now a single parent at 19 and working 21 hours a week. As for the studying.. I wanted to go to college but like you i found out i was expecting so i knocked the studying on the head. I figured when my son was old enough and in school i could then look at my options again. Theres always a door whats open, you jus have to know what you want and where to find it. laura
2007-01-22 06:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I worked a full-time job and did night school when I was pregnant & it wasn't easy.
If I was you unless you're 110% SURE that your partner is going to do more than his fair share I'd delay starting your course.
The last 4 months or so will be the most intensive and you will need lots of time, sleep and peace and quiet to do well. You wont get that with a baby who needs constant attention and feeding every couple of hours day & night.
Plus it's impossible to do certain things when you're as big as a house and exhausted while pregnant.
2007-01-22 06:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worked full time in a foundry and went to school at night full time. I averaged 4 hours of sleep a night. My husband took care of everything else or I couldn't have done it. I didn't have the baby part though. But working part-time, I don't think that should be a problem for you especially if the work is office work.
2007-01-22 06:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't be easy and I'd be lying if I said it would be!
But you can do it! Studying is tough when you have a family and bringing up a small baby takes its toll on your sleep and night time routine but if you have the support of a caring partner and friends and family who can watch the baby for an hour whilst you study then there's no reason why you can't make it work.
Good luck :)
2007-01-22 06:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by franpal_2000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually now is the best time to study, when baby gets here it'll be a little more difficult, so take advantage of this 9 months.
2007-01-23 15:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by godiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its any help im working and studying part time at college, things get hard with the studying but if you are determined to do it then nothing is impossible...........have a strike routine with your new baby when it comes along......waken at one time, feeds at another, bed at another. it always helps. just make sure you have childcare sorted out before baby arrives.............and btw congratulations!!!
2007-01-22 06:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by Female Raging Huggalot 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It involves rearranging yoru priorities...you can do it if you really believe you can do it...
2007-01-22 07:24:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋