My ex girlfriend has started to call my cell phone and becoming close friends with my wife. I left this ex for my wife 6 years ago me and this ex were promised to get married. We were together for six years when i cheated on her with my now wife. She(the ex) tells me not to tell my wife that she has called. I wanted to know what do you guys think should i tell her to not call me or should i be friends with her? Thing thing she asks is "why would (my wife) get mad if we are just friends?what we can't be firends" then she says she wants to have lunch and i told her i would have to talk to my wife and she hung up on me.
2007-01-21 22:21:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry about the miss spellings im a little tired and forgot to proff read before i sent the question.
2007-01-21 22:24:06 · update #1
Being friends with an ex is fine .. but .. only if you are honest with your wife and the contact is not kept secret. Of course you should tell your wife otherwise when she finds out, and she will, there will be trouble.
2007-01-21 22:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Chris G 3 · 1⤊ 15⤋
I believe the past should stay in the past, so tell her that you're married now, and the two of you are not getting back together, she should back off after that, if not get a restraining order, and it sounds like she (the ex) is just trying to keep your wife close so she can break the two of you guys up, tell your wife to cut off all contacts with her as well.
2007-01-22 12:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best decision is no. Bcoz based on what usually happen, if u bcome "friends"with Ur ex there is no telling what u can done. u can cheat on her again and that is not fair for Ur wife. u had marry Ur wife and she should be the only woman u centered in ur life. so forget ur ex and think about ur life with ur wife now!
2007-01-21 23:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by nonisu_9591 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it clever?? no longer likely. merely once you get the recent woman make helpful she is conscious which you and the ex are merely acquaintances and you're able to try this by skill of taking your new lady chum with you once you go out with your ex especially situations so she will see the relationship you adult males have with one yet another and experience first hand your platonic relationship with one yet another. that would make your new woman greater gentle and it extremely is going to establish have faith between you 2 as properly. yet once you dont get the recent woman then its high quality so you may well be acquaintances with your ex. no person is in possibility to get injury in that subject so choose for it! sturdy luck and terrific desires!! :)
2016-11-26 01:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by pfeifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her noooooo......and don't take calls etc. from her....this is not normal for someone with this background with you.....she is looking for trouble so please do not encourage her....your wife would not be happy and If I were you, I would sit down with the wife and tell her what the ex is doing so she isn't blindsided...things may come out eventually and if you haven't been honest with the wife, she will never trust you again...do the right thing by your wife...good luck
2007-01-21 22:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be friends with your ex? I think (it did for me) it will cause many problems with you and your wife. And,,why is your ex even telling you to "keep it a secret" ?? She may have other intentions!! My humble opinion is DON'T go there!! :)
2007-01-21 22:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your getting into trouble and YOU know it- don't you see??? its very clear- She (ex) is just trying to get back at you for what you did. So if you truly love your wife change your cel number and forget the ex.
Luck to you.
2007-01-21 23:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be very wary of her! if there r no children involved they there should b no need 4 contact between you. you have moved on and are happy with your wife,dont let her come between you both,your ex needs to move on and you need to be strong for the sake of your current marriage
2007-01-21 22:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by penpam05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r going to create complications in ur life. One shud never have any relationship with ex.
2007-01-21 22:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no way man...............You already know the answer to your question. Obviously you are inviting trouble into your relationship by just taking calls from her. She knows what she is doing you better watch your back!
2007-01-21 23:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by kathleen_martin8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋