I have been seeing this dude on the internet for about a month now and lastnight he proposed to me and i said yes. Its going to be a long engagement so i dont think there is a problem. What do you think?
2007-01-21 22:19:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Very long engagement..........No problem
2007-01-21 22:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by bette69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You haven't met this person face to face yet, and even if it's a long engagement, you need to know more about the person, do a background check on the person before you meet him in person.
Verify everything he's told you is true before you ever agree to meet the person. Once you know for sure that he checks out that way, still when you agree to meet up with this person, take a friend with you the first time.
It's always better to be safe than sorry. There are some truly smart evil people on the internet these days and one never can be too trusting until you get to know the person.
My wife and I met on the internet when it was first getting started and we did background checks on each other, had friends with us when we met the first time and things worked out well. We been happily married ever since.
Good luck.
2007-01-21 22:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1st off if this dude is on the internet how can you be physically seeing him? Do you really see him in person? Have you both met in person?
Marriage? I would think not---marriage is for people who truly know each other and are best friends in real life in a relationship that has physically been established. Nurturing an online relationship would be like locking yourself up in prison and trying to have a conjugal visit between bars.
You need to slow down---stop the internet surfing for love and culture something that is more tangible and real.
2007-01-21 22:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the long engagement ,no problem BUT,as you have already said yes it would seem you have accepted him exactly how he is right now,,you have little or no idea of the real him and if he turns out to be one of those who is all show at the beginning and the bad stuff comes later,,in small pieces you may have to call it all off because you now realize he ISNT who you originally thought he was and that is more painful to both of you than calling the whole thing of,,cooling it a bit and seeing where this person takes you.what we think of someone isnt always what we find later we know about them.
2007-01-21 22:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I started dating a man, on the 3rd date he asked me to marry him. We were both in the process of getting a divorce from other people. so when he asked me all I said was I'm still married. After I filed for divorce and his was final he purchased me a ring.
We dated 2 years, then married now for 11 years. HE IS THE BEST HUSBAND EVER!
2007-01-22 02:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by sbratt2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you met him on the interet, never in person...and you want to marry this person? how do you know that he is not some crazy person out to molest you? or harm you in some way? i can't believe that you just did that. you need to do yourself a favor. break off this 'internet' engagement with this person that you never met and that you dont' know and block him in every possible way. just save yourself now while you still have the chance.
2007-01-21 23:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking, you must have never seen nor heard of the horror stories of meeting someone on the net. Why are you even gonna tie your life up with someone that you don't even know? I'm sure that there are some people that are good on the net but I couldn't risk that chance of finding that crazy one. LUCK TO YA.
2007-01-21 22:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are saying your only contact has been over a month and over the internet (not in person), I would say, "You're nuts!"
No offense, but that is too quick to make that serious of a decision, especially for not having spent any time with him in person (if that is in fact what you are saying).
2007-01-21 22:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1 month is too soon. But you already said yes... so make it a very long engagement !! (a couple years!!)
2007-01-21 22:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U shud have asked before saying yes.
2007-01-21 22:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too would ask the same question: Have you ever met this guy?
If no, then you have no idea who he is for sure. Becareful and move slower so you can get to know him.
2007-01-21 22:31:38 · answer #11 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋