V love each other s v did love marriage but i dont know how to express him when i feel to have sex with him i feel if i say him & he think bad about me that i m interested only on this. I dont know how to make him know that i m in mood. But he is too free with me n ask frankly to me when he is in mood. Please say me how to express my feelings to him he is best hubby one can get but i feel shy
2007-01-21 22:09:29 · 19 answers · asked by sumo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
JUST RUB HIS FOOT WITH YOUR FOOT.
2007-01-22 01:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be a complicated subject, Sumo. I know from personal experience that if you do not share your "wantings" with your husband/ wife then things can get pretty ugly. First, you must understand that your shyness may come across as being frigid or unloving, but that does not mean jump his bones every 20 mins. Start gentle, maybe once or twice a week you make the first move. Use play items (Fluffy handcuffs etc...) to add a little spice, and no it does not matter how old you are! Let him know that you are a woman with desires, be a little wicked and tease now and again. He will soon learn that you are not "uninterested"!
I hope this helps in some way!
2007-01-22 06:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he is in mood on one fine day, get him into conversation and put forth your problem politely and I promise he will definetly help on this.
Alternately both of you discuss on the matter and fix up a code word eg. let us have COFFEE. The next time you ask him to have COFFEE, He understands with out a hint and then you can enjoy the sex both of them.
One more thing you can use this code in public also to cummunicate to your hubby about your mood.
SO TRY IT, YOU WILL BE THE WINNER.
ALL THE BEST.
do reply me after trying this at konada67@yahoo.com
2007-01-23 08:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by konada67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just gave this advice to another with similar problem and might respond to you as well.
I'm from Canada so we may have different views on this question. So I may be saying something I know not your customs (forgive me if so)
Here is my best shot at this one- Get to know one another more. Ask him what he like and doesn't like, then you do the same. Talk, relax and work on it.
You can't solve the problem in one day but can take the steps leading to a better relationship with the man you are sharing the rest of your life with. Trust me you will get to know him as well as yourself better.
It is strictly between you and your partner.
Try it.
I hope it works out for you.
2007-01-23 02:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See ur husband is open with u in this topic.If he can ask u to have sex wen he is in mud then u can also.Bt if u feel ashame jst go to him n give him a passionate smooch he will come to know that u r in the mud bt keep that in mind that he should be fresh at that time he shud not be tired, k u can recognize it frm his behaviour, apply this method if u succeed mail me if not then post this ques; agaain i'll help u out.
2007-01-22 06:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by aryan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The largest part of marriage and relationships is healthy communication. You married him---talk to him. It is not a matter of when you are in the mood--it is a matter of not being in the mood---that does happen, too. You married him, you tell him and maybe he needs to get to know you better also. Good luck
2007-01-22 06:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
n marriage you both should be free to express love and desire to each other. today even girls take the first step and it is OK.
mostly men are ever ready it is the girls who are to be in the mood . you just initiate and no man will refuse not the husband at least unless one is sick and you ll know that.
2007-01-22 06:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by KOHLI V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there r many ways other tha speaking up. keep ure self in a romantic mood. do lots of pampering , cuddle a lot.above all keep a graceful place when u r happy about doing all this he will automatically start learing ure se preferences. dont be shy he is ure husband , ure best husband be fran to him he will surely want to know what u want. god bless you and wish u a very happy married life.
2007-01-22 07:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is underrated in most relationship's what you need is to maybe not talking but action for action speaks louder than words... I'd try some subtle non-verbal "hints" that you'd like to get busy in bed; and good luck with your marriage.
2007-01-22 07:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by demonicunicorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess u have a lack of communication in ur relationship......
When u feel like want to have sex with ur hubby. Kiss on his lips & ask him to 'what u wanna do''.......... & Whenever u both go out that go Straight & ask him That ''How does he feel when u ask him for things like that''??????????
U have to make ur first move.........
Communicate with him on every topic,,,, Dont feel shy or ashamed.......
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-22 06:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common that a women is little bit shy in expressing her feelings in Indian tradition. For more.... mail me I think I can help you out.
Take care,
Bye
2007-01-22 06:34:08 · answer #11 · answered by B O N D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋