well she dont want her parents to findout shes pregnant and she dont know if she should have an abourshon or if she should keep it andd telll her parents she asked me for advice but she wants more advice off people she dont know
2007-01-21 21:46:55 · 32 answers · asked by louise s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
the best thing for her is to go and see school nurse if shes still in school and get the school nurse to phone in her parents. its alot easier that someone else id to tell the parents than her and in a public place so they dont get violent.
when i was pregnant with both mine, it was easy to tell my mum, she was a little dissapointed but she sloved the idea of picking names and helping with baby gear.
my dad found out when i was 7mths preg on both occasions and that was because he noticed i looked big. he never spoke to me for two weeks but he came round.
if you or your mate needs a chat please email me at hannah_clarke32@hotmail.co.uk
2007-01-21 21:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have some very big decisions ahead of you. You need to do not only what is in your best interest, but the baby's as well. If you decide to keep the baby, it should be because you want to care for and love this baby. If you decide that you are not ready for a baby, please consider adoption. There are many people who would love and provide for your baby. You can even choose an open adoption which allows you to keep in contact with the baby and visit. This is very graphic, but necessary for you to understand the consequences of your actions.....during an abortion, they tear the baby apart and suck it up into a vacuum. It has been recorded and they have seen that the fetuses, no matter how small and young, know what is happening and move away from the instruments. It causes them severe pain and suffering. Please consider that before you decide to abort the baby. Good Luck and remember, once you've made your decision, stand firm and know that you made an informed decision in both your best interests. This is your decision to make and don't allow others to decide for you. You must go to a doctor asap. You should start taking prenatal vitamins NOW because no matter which course you choose, the extra vitamins are necessary. You can get it over the counter at any drug store or Walmart. You do not need a prescription. Your parents will be able to help you talk through the many senarios, but if they start being bossy, find another adult to help...school counsellor, nurse, your doctor...all of these people are bound by confidentiality laws and cannot tell your parents.
Good Luck.
2007-01-21 22:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Michele B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell your friend to go to the doctors or a drop in centre like connexions. I have to admit if she is debating to keep this baby then she really does need to talk it out with someone because if she goes ahead and has an abortion then she may regret it and feel she has made a huge mistake, which isn't good for her health. Do you best to support your friend and let her know your there. I remember when i found out i was pregnant and was so scared to tell my parents! In the end it wasn't that bad. It was my life life, my body, my child and my parents understood that and were thrilled.
2007-01-21 23:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get her to tell the school.
If she doesn't want to tell her parents then that's not the way to do it.
She should talk to someone though.
Get her to go to the doctor.
They can't say anything to anyone, but they can give her advise, other options, and they never look down on you.
I've been a couple of times, and they've always been really friendly, and helpful.
Just remember though.
You can never go back on an abortion, and if she has it, she obviously has to tell her parents some time.
So really think about what she's going to do! :)
2007-01-25 18:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by lauren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, abortion and pregnancy are both important issues that will need a ton of addressing before they are acted upon.
Abortion is not easier than pregnancy. Abortion is just as tough as a pregnancy, except that with a pregnancy your mind will be able to relate with what's happening around you, and with an abortion, the mind will hold on to what could've been, and it can be painful and heart-wrecking throughout your life to think about what could've been.
If you either pick an abortion or pick going through pregnancy and eventually bearing a child, your life is going to change either way. Just realize this! It is very important that you realize this.
Also, if you want to know what happens during an abortion, go to google, type in abortions, and go to images. Then, you'll know what you're doing.
If you want to know what happens during pregnancy, go to pregnancy on any site that lists it.
Good Luck! I hope I was some help to you!
2007-01-21 22:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by maybe this will help-Harvey Milk 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
before everything, are u satisfied with this? If u are, then it relatively is going to truly coach once you proportion this information. in the event that they experience which you're unhappy, then of direction they'll difficulty. i does no longer write an e mail. no remember if it is not possilbe to do it in guy or woman, then tell them over the telephone. that's a greater robust than satisfied time and that they'll could study to settle for this, or they'll relatively be those lacking out. you ought to initiate your conversatin with something like, "mom, dad...I even have some information. i'm relatively satisfied approximately it, yet i'm worried approximately your reaction." this might provide them a minute to be arranged and could additionally coach them the way you sense. GL
2016-10-31 23:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by pour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes lucky to have you as a friend.its not a decision that can be made lightly. depending on how far on she is, and how old she is things her decision should be thought about long and hard. her parents may be upset at first but thats normal if shes young.please encourage her to tell har parents. school teachers cant really get involved without someone blaming them for interfering. if i was her mum i'd be devasted if i felt she couldnt trust me.families usually stick together through this as long as they are made aware of it.if she wants to keep the baby thats her decision too
2007-01-22 09:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by kazzy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that happened to my best friend as well she got pregnant at 15 and she kept the baby
she told her parents and although they were disappointed in her they stood by her the whole way
the first thing to do is talk to her boyfriend or the person she slept with and see what they think of it
then tell a parent or family memebr or someone that you can trust
babys a little miralces and my friend had a little baby girl and called it lucy and im its god mother . =)
dont get get rid of it my friend was glad that she didnt get rid of it and is supporting her and her baby fine ( she is 18 months now =) soooo cute )
anyways hope everything goes ok for her
and tell her to think about what she is doing
2007-01-22 03:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your friend?!
How old is the father?!
Is she in a serious relationship, or just a one night stand?!
There's alot of facts gone unanswered to this that could affect the answer to your question.
Take a pregnancy test before either of you get too worked up about this sort of thing. I've been in that position and its no fun.. but I wasn't pregnant then wanted to kick myself in the butt for all the precautions I had gotten wrapped up in before I even knew.
2007-01-22 01:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by Intirb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont say how old your friend is?
she really needs to speak to an adult she can trust, whatever decision shes going to take its one shes got to live with for the rest of her life.
there are no wrong or right answers, right now she needs more love and support than ever.
its a very difficult situation but her parents might surprise her and be supportive with whats the best thing for her to do.
she should not be forced by anybody to either keep the baby or not its got to be what she wants.
i would like to wish her the very best of luck regardless what she decides to do.
2007-01-23 23:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by JANICE H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your freind/ goes and talks to her Dr ASAP. Her Dr must keep things confidential, but your freind can not leave this and hope it goes away! Dr will be able to explain all options available and organise help with anything that needs doing! She is obviously very young and she needs to realise what a big thing this is, if she keeps the child her whole life will change for ever.
Act urgently det Drs appointment today, go today!
Good Luck
2007-01-21 21:57:32 · answer #11 · answered by djp6314 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋