I have been single for two years now after being in a long-term relationship for over 13 years.Although I enjoy being single,I miss sharing my life with someone and growing with them.I have always been strongly attracted to african-american men and have always dated them exclusively.The problem is, since I have been single the past two years, I have had a very diffecult time finding professional, serious, relationship oriented African-American men who want to date and not just hook up.I have passed over numerous white guys that could have been great relationship prospects because my attraction to them is not strong physically. I don't know why I am so drawn to one group and not the other,I just accept it and know that's how it is with me.So,should I hold out and only date guys I am drawn to strongly both physically and otherwise, or would it be possible to be happy with someone who I am not strongly attracted to but who is a great person?
2007-01-21 20:43:55 · 5 answers · asked by Bruce C 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Personally I would go for the great person....who are you gonna spend most of your life with ---10 minutes of sex every night! great...but what are you gonna talk about for the next 23 hrs 50 min?.....You mostly want a friend in a partner...sex is easy --you can get that anywhere...but love is much harder to get and much more rewarding.
2007-01-21 20:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are two aspects to any attractions to opposit sex ,one is sexual or biological attraction and the other is the intelluctual attraction.There may be cases where the person is very attractive physically but scores very low on the intellucual level,and vice versa. Hence the most important thing is self assessment .What will you stand for in the long run or how much of which aspect you can compromise and still lead an enjoyable life.
2007-01-21 21:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by jayaraman n--chemm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the looks go (growing old together) - what's left??
Yes, you CAN be happy with someone you're not strongly attracted to but who is a great person!! That's the BETTER option at the end of the day...
Not to say you can't find a great person who IS physically attractive to you...
Good luck with that.
2007-01-21 20:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm seeing some one now.
we have not talked about sex yet,
but that will come.
not only is he handsome, but has a big heart.
he may even be too good for me,
but i am real happy right now.
what i am saying is , go with the heart , and see what happens.
it is well worth the journey.
2007-01-21 21:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No actual charm is a large element in a useful relationship in spite of the undeniable fact that it should not be the in uncomplicated words element you be conscious. besides when you commence to be infatuated with a men personality and also you commence to subconsciously idolize them, they frequently commence to look more effective alluring to you in any case.
2016-10-17 02:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋