First off, I live in Texas and was trying to find out if there is any type of law probiting me and my Girlfriend from Marrying because she is supposedely Bi-polar, her mom (really her aunt, but also her legal guardian) had her diagonsed as this after going to two physicans that diagreed when she was younger, her mom went to a third finally agreed and she's been on medication ever since, she's 20 btw. Now the problem is that her mom gets a disability check as a "Representative Payee" for her because my gf took some type of test when she was 18, a legal adult to determine if she could control her money according to her mom, the person that interview my gf (a councelor of some sort) said that her mother has to be her "Representive Payee" . Keep in mind her mom is extremely controlling, won't let her work, and won't let her move out because she supposedly has legal papers saying she can't until she's married. Her mom says she has to "legally" sign off for the marriage, is this true?
2007-01-21 20:03:41 · 9 answers · asked by Twisted_Dilemma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope. Just because she controls the daughter's money does not mean she controls anything else. If she does not have a durable power of attorney, then she cannot do anything to stop you. When you get married, be sure to get a power of attorney for your wife so you can make her monitary decisions.
2007-01-21 20:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by bashnick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have two issues here: Legal and medical.
The main problem appears to be proving that your gf is mentally competent and doesn't require a "guardian" after she is of age. Plenty of bipolar people can successfully manage their illness without the help of a parent, guardian, or spouse, SO LONG AS THEY TAKE THEIR MEDICATION.
But is she in fact bi-polar? That will require medical testing, by several doctors, and in my experience, doctors tend to rubber stamp a diagnosis of manic depression, especially if multiple doctors (even two) already agree on this diagnosis, and/or the patient has a history of bipolarity (that test you mentioned).
It sounds like mom is getting a free ride on her daughter's supposed disability, but it may actually be justified. Just because she is a dragon-lady, doesn't mean her daughter is not sick.
My advise is to consult that lawyer, and then do as much research as possible on bipolar disorder. Perhaps there is a good research hospital in your area that would be willing to do some brain scans and/or bloodtesting to reassess the validity of the bipolar diagnosis.
Good luck!
2007-01-21 20:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by Julia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Under 18: If you are 16 or 17 years of age, you will have to provide a copy of your birth certificate along with some other sort of identification showing your date of birth. You will also need to have the sworn consent from each parent, each legal guardian or a judge - in person - before the county clerk at the time of application. Your parents or guardians will need to provide identification like a driver's license, state identification card, Illinois Department of Public Aid card, or passport. If your parent is deceased, you will need to show a death certificate or proof of guardianship, or a court order waiving consent. A legal guardian will also need to show a certified copy of the guardianship papers. If you are under sixteen (16) years of age, you cannot get married in Illinois.
2016-05-24 14:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! Get legal advice.
Also tell your girlfriend to speak up! She has a right to voice her opinion and to be heard. She is an adult. I don't see how her mom can stop you two from getting married. She is an adult and she doesn't sound insane.
Please seek legal advice. There are lawyers who give free consultations.
2007-01-21 20:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by TINY822 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they don't want you to marry her because they will miss out on their money. That's not fair. She is an adult, and can make decisions on her own. It all seems a little far-fetched... unless she really is in no condition to be married.
2007-01-21 20:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by am_anda15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i doubt it you're gf's legal age its a go, and this "leagally" signing off thing is probally just something she made up to prevent her from thinking of marriage. research what you know of already you can talk to a lawyer for free without taking legal action against her mom if you wanted. good luck.
2007-01-21 20:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do need some legal advise, because this sound like the mother is scaming the SS office
Good luck
2007-01-21 20:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the state goveners office they may not be able to answer your question but should point you in the right direction
2007-01-21 20:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by DEWEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get legal advice.
sounds to me her mother is taking advantage of her condition - which is abhorrent AND illegal !
2007-01-21 20:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by luckylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋