Knowing he loves you too. But we don't want to be together. It ended 2years ago, we try and try but i think we have time for each other. i only talk to him about every 2 months and maybe see him every 3 or 4. im not sure if this is a friendship.
2007-01-21 19:32:40 · 17 answers · asked by Nino C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we haven't been together in 2years iv seen him date lots of others girls and i also date. but im starting to think that a friend i only hear from every 2 months is just a waste.
2007-01-21 19:41:52 · update #1
NO!!! Let it go!!!
2007-01-21 19:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, you can if you want to....but it may end up being completely torturous. If you are truly still in love with him it will tear you up when you see him with a new girl or worse yet when you find out he is in love with someone else. If you are both in love with each other you may want to reexamine why you don't want to be together in the first place. Just be careful with the friendship thing. It can be hard. Sometimes its better to stay away from each other for a time to get "over" the love feelings and then start fresh with the friendship. Otherwise it may get confusing and someone could get hurt.
2007-01-21 19:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by AprilDawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you can't be friends with someone you have been with romantically, because that's not a friendship. A friend is someone you can trust with anything and he has to be able to trust you. Becuase you have feelings for him if he finds another girl, and ask your opinion your going to give him the worst because you won't want them together and he'll do the same when you find someone. I'm not even sure that's love......love is never forbidden. Remember that babe.
2007-01-21 19:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both have an understanding that the serious relationship is over and done with, I would say it's OK to be friends. You evidently still have feelings for him, and 3 or 4 visits a year is fine so long as you keep it within limits only as friends.
2007-01-21 19:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends. If you are trying to completly sever ties than being friends is a bad idea but on the other hand if not be friends why not. I have been friends with a guy for about 10 years and i am in lov ewith him. see that is how you know it is true when you cant be happy unless they are happy.we share something special no one can take from us but i know that at this time in our lives we are where we need to be
2007-01-21 19:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by oliphantheather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can be friends with someone you are still in love. It just takes time to move on. Unfortunately I cannot give you a time limit. It is different for everyone.
Try seeing other guys as a way to help yourself move on.
By constantly thinking about him you are not giving your self a chance to heal.
So stop thinking about him and get back in the game.
2007-01-21 20:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by Spikey and Scruffy's Mummy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friendship takes work, too, you know. it's not something that just happens. you have to *choose* to be friends with someone. and it takes two to have a meaningful friendship.
even if you're in love with him, if you're mature enough to control your emotions, you can still have a "friends only" relationship with him. that is, IF it's all right with him, too.
'coz if you're the only one who's willing to take the time and effort to build up the friendship, then it's not gonna last. if you're both willing to spend time to keep in touch, well and good. but if not.. well, you'd be better off looking for more worthy friends.
2007-01-21 19:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by january 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think so. If you're still in love with your ex, just think of the pain you'll go through when he starts seeing someone else etc. Sometimes I think it's just best to let them go completely.
2007-01-21 19:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by ForeverAnAngel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya.u can.may be someday the difficulties wil be cleared..and u wil live 2gether happily.atleast u have 2 contact 2 kw where is ur someone or wt he is doing
2007-01-21 19:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by sneha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the process of break up and we are trying but it only makes it harder on us
2007-01-21 19:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by JAMI E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, friendship is a choice... So, even if you still love him, but you choose to be friends, then you may...
2007-01-21 19:37:09 · answer #11 · answered by xander_champ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋