Ever since one of my friends tried to **** my man, I'm having a hard time letting more friends into my life and I barely talk to any of my old friends. Im very depressed and feel as if there's no reason to live any more since I don't have friends. And the worst thing about is that this happened 2 years ago. will it ever go away? Im trying to forget but I don't know why its so hard to not punish everyone else for what my ex bestfriend did.
2007-01-21 19:13:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
get a new man.
2007-01-21 19:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I share the topic with you. i don't know what your xbf did but I trusted mine as nobody else(we've been together for 5 years, its been very close relationships). Then I decided to make him a surprise and came to his working place. I saw him with another woman. I acknowledged from our friends (they couldn't deny it anymore) that they were dating for two months already.
I parted him myself. He didn't want to let me go.
But what was the worsiest thing is that he became the one-needed person. He was both a friend, a caring one, a lover etc. He was EVERYTHING.
A year after it I've been trying to punish men with wounding words and not only. I tried not to do it but couldn't.
Only a year and 2 months later I met a man whom I couldn't injure. He pretended not to mind my words even about me wanting to get rid of all the men in the world. He stayed close, hugging me. In several months my heart melted.
I want to say that you shouldn't leave all the anger and other negative emotions inside.
My mom is a psychotherapist. She says - you should run through all these emotions to let them at last free you!
Be patient. I went to participate in a psychological group-it helped. If you need to be all alone-than Be for some time. But after some time you'll better see people. Tell somebody when ready to do it. Words give away emotions too. Find new home in nature. Draw. Express yourself. Believe me - it would be hard but you'll go through it!!!
If sad-write me to find new friend. I know what you feel.
2007-01-22 03:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Natalya Ch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dust your self off and try again. you are your reason to live.people will walk all over you if you don't. especially females! You need to forget that **** and move on. Or everything you do wont be to your fullest potential. Good luck
It ll be OK just take it a little at a time
2007-01-22 03:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u have to do is not hold a grudge against her and forget it ever happened only then will you understand to regain trust in people
and remember never be quick to judge
2007-01-22 03:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Gelica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who tried to **** your man wasn't your friend. Look at it this way, right now you don't have friends but you don't have enemies either.
2007-01-22 03:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by orderly_logic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you said tried. that means he didn't. Second of all you can't punish everyone for one persons action.
2007-01-25 20:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by pnn177 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be afraid to trust people.
2007-01-22 03:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋