Is my boyfriend cheating?
Do you think my boyfriend is cheating on me?
I checked my boyfriends voicemail a little while ago.... I was listening to his saved messages. One of the saved messages was a girl. She didnt say very much at all. No name or anything, she just said " Helloooo" Very flirty like, then hangs up. He never has serivce at his house or most of the places he goes, other than work.
Tonight I asked him if he was just staying with me untill someone better comes along. He seemed very odd and said " No.." then trys to change the subject.
Is he cheating on me?
Should I be worried and ask him about it? Or will that give me away, of being able to find these things out?
Also....
He gave me his pass code a while back.
I dont check them very often.
I have been cheated on before.
He always is lying to me. Stealing stuff of mine and others, where his been ect...
I had a gut feeling something was wrong. Thats why I checked his voice mail.
2007-01-21 19:03:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
you're so insecure, if your boyfriend is not cheating on you, then he should be.
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2007-01-21 19:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
What you have described closely resembles a Desperate Housewives scene:
Mama Solis: "So, mijo, I assume you didn't insist that I travel 2,000 miles for small talk. So why am I here?"
Carlos: "She...is unhappy."
Mama Solis: "Mm-hmm."
Carlos: "I've given her everything she ever wanted, but it doesn't seem to make a difference, and I feel her drifting further and further away. And lately I've started thinking that maybe..."
Mama Solis: "So you think she's cheating on you?"
Carlos: "I think so."
He starts crying and Mama Solis slaps him across the face.
Mama Solis: "We can talk about your problems, but I'm not going to have any of that."
Carlos: "Si."
Mama Solis: "Do you have any proof?"
Carlos: "No, it's -- It's just a feeling."
Mama Solis: "I had that feeling with your father and that whore waitress, and I was right. Always trust your feelings."
Point is, it turns out Carlos is right; his wife did cheat on him. There has to be some sort of subconscious communication between you and him that leads you to think that he is cheating on you. Try to find more supporting evidence that prove that he is a player.
It seems to me that you are a little insecure and after all the things you've been through, I don't blame you. Since you don't trust him, perhaps it's best to end this relationship. You will find that special someone who will bring you security.
Good luck and lots of love,
Phil Bay
2007-01-22 03:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by nightflowerphil 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its hard to say, sometimes it can seem like one thing but be another. I have to agree with the post above though, that you do sound kind of insecure, even for someone who has been cheated on before. Ive been cheated on before, too, but Ive learned something mostly from other couples: if someone is the type that is always going to cheat, theyre going to find a way to cheat.
You cant drive yourself crazy with it, and you need to decide now whether you are pretty sure he is cheating, or that you dont think so. You cant always KNOW for sure. If its going to be something you think that will bother you in the future because he seems the type, you have to end it. Or if its just that anytime someone acts funny its always going to trigger the insecurity in you, you need to get some help and figure this out, so it doesnt ruin your future relationships.
Some people just like their own space, even has female friends, but have never cheated and will never cheat...thats how I am. I could never be with an insecure girl, like some of my friends girlfriends, because theyre SO insecure it would drive me nuts after awhile, and I dont know how they put up with it. Its all about TRUST---you either trust him or you dont, there is no middle ground. So decide for yourself asap, whether you think he is or its something else in his behavior, or if its your own insecurity.
2007-01-22 03:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by Frasier C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This doesnt sound like much of a relationship with all this mistrust and accusation of lying and stealing.
If you cant be honest with each other and learn to trust each other then there is no future for either of you.
Maybe he is cheating, maybe he's not - no one can give you the answer to this - ignore the idiots that say "Yes" - they are just telling you what they think you want to hear.
You have to reappraise this whole relationship.
2007-01-22 03:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by rodandalisonthompson 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Usually when you have a gut feeling, and its someone who lies to you all the time you're not in a good situation regardless of if he's cheating on you or not.
That message might have been from someone he likes, but may not have done anything with.
There is a possibility that he's staying with you until he finds someone else.
2007-01-22 03:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by rezrez12 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
With all do respect, I say you leave him. No man is worth getting stuff stolen from you. He probably is cheating on you. I wouldnt put up with that bs. And if you do leave him, I recomend taking some things of his just as a reminder.
2007-01-22 03:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by djt820 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like you need a new boyfriend. Good Luck.
2007-01-22 03:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jerky boy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes he is cheating you, face him by that and dump him or forgive him after his apologize about that cheating
2007-01-22 09:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch the useless creep if he steals you dont want him anyway, hes dishonest and he will cheat if he hasnt already.
2007-01-22 03:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you don't trust him. It doesn't matter whether he's cheating, or not. You don't trust him. There's no reason to stay with someone you don't trust.
And, he's probably cheating.
2007-01-22 03:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You must believe your partner and if you have a question you should ask a question.
2007-01-22 03:12:54 · answer #11 · answered by Iamman 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋