The reason i'm asking is personal but it seems you can change your look's your attitude but how do you change your body language. .It's a dead give away of your past.
2007-01-21 18:57:34 · 16 answers · asked by thehammer 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
As Sullenmoo said, educate yourself on what certain actions mean.
For example. If you are talking to someone and they have their arms crossed, that generally means they are closed to any ideas put forward.
Or if you are in a meeting and someone is leaning back in their chair that means that they are not interested in what you are saying.
If however someone is leaning back in their chair, has their hands behind their head and feet on the table, their body is saying that they are a superior person and they think they are better than you.
If someone doesn't look you in the eye when you are speaking to them, they have something to hide. Or if they are looking around the room, that means they are not interested, and you certainly don't have their full attention.
If someone is leaning forward in their chair that means they are interested.
If their hands are flat on the table, then they are open to new ideas.
If someone has a firm handshake, that means they have a positive attitude. Likewise if they have a weak handshake, then their attitude is negative.
Just knowing these small things can help you to conduct yourself better during any conversation or meeting.
Knowing these simple body language definitions can also be a big help if you are trying to train someone. Cause then you can know if they are really interested or if you need to change your tactics to make them interested.
Hope it helps.
2007-01-21 19:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by Spikey and Scruffy's Mummy 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Put on a big smile where ever you go, and people will read you as a happy person. I've seen this work very easily. People don't care how you really feel inside as long as you have that smile on your face. Then all of a sudden your seen as a positive person. It's stupid, but it works. Thats why so many evil females who are seen as angels is so interesting. They smile that cheesy grin all the time knowing people will think they're so innocent and cute because of it When behind closed doors, they treat their boyfriends like trash, and sh*t talk against they're so-called firends.
Whats funny is, you can be the most positive person on Earth, but if your not smiling, and you naturally have a slightly gloomy face, people will complain and say you have problems. We live in a childish society.
2007-01-21 19:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Educating yourself about body language and what each simple gesture means is a good start. once you figure out what you are conveying you can then take actions to change what you are telling people by the way you stand, cross your arms, sit, move, change your face etc.
I have listed a link below for you to referance. Many times we don't realize the simple "tells" we give off day to day with how we stand and look at people and so on. By finding out what each gesture means you can change which ones you use and thus present yourself in a better manner. Hope that helps.
~P~
2007-01-21 19:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by sullenmoon79 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it would be a conscious effort that would drain you emotionally in a very short time. the best way is to get help for self confidence and perhaps read up on positive affirmations.
the best way to change is not to create a facade but to change your persona. less negativity and more positivity. sounds hard? only you (or the person) can do it. sooner or later the fake gestures will not be enough to mask the real person.
2007-01-22 06:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Research all that you can find on body language and then just practice what you have learned and want to convey. You will not always be convincing unless you practice a little attitude adjustment to go with it. Set a series of small goals that you would like to achieve and then go after them. When you learn that you can achieve what you want, then natural self confidence will show. Good luck.
2007-01-21 19:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Del C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Marie...Yoga Definitely
Pilate I have to try that...mind over matter ... you have to exercise ya own thinking work out walking It a good ! Smiling works !Body language Speak volume!
2007-01-21 19:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be aware of your actions, study your self and your emotional states.
Body Language is the outward expression of your emotions. Think confident and you will show confidence, think positive and show positive. It is that easy.
2007-01-21 19:32:25 · answer #7 · answered by Scott P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you REALLY changed your attitude, all else would fall into place.
2007-01-21 19:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant change that you can only accept the past and move on. I wish you well!!
2007-01-21 19:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
pilates, yoga, personal trainer... can really help change your posture and your body presentation. the key is to be consistent...
2007-01-21 19:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋