I found one week back a love letter written by my wife to a happily married friend who also has two adolescent kids and is in no way give up his family for my wife and she also knows that. She says she is no longer in touch with him now and that she cut him back six months earlier which coincides with the date on the letter. She had run this affair through mail and phone for one and half year but she says she does'nt know the email address. They met only once in a remote resort and she says she had nothing physical. She says she wants to continue our relation if I want it. I am worried about my kids if we take divorce. Besides I do not know how far I can trust her as she intially denied the facts of the letter but later admitted only when I inquired. I asked her to come out with truth and she gave it in Q&A form. She says she can not remember his email address though she chatted with him for 1 year?Is she lying? She says she does not want a divorce but would not refuse if I do?
2007-01-21 18:48:38 · 11 answers · asked by havah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Liar....she obviously wants a divorce, now why she is playing this game I don't understand it. File for divorce, and joint custody. F**k her, let him have her skank azz.
2007-01-21 19:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what's good for anyone I can just comment on how I think. Only you know what you really want.
First off that is a big betrayal on your wifes part. It would be hard to trust her again. Can you? If not then you won't have a healthy relationship anymore and it's not worth pursuing further.
Divorce happens amoung children but I take on this is, it's better for both parents to be happy apart then not happy together, the children will know what's going on no matter how hard you try to coat it.
On the email, it's possible she forgot the address, I don't remember email addresses that well either.
As far as they met in a remote resort and didn't do anything physical, that is hard to believe. Seriously.
I would say if you want to continue with this marriage then seek marriage counseling, if that doesn't work then a trial separation and take it from there.
Good luck to you and your family!
2007-01-22 03:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so she wants a divorce... and its impossible she forgot the email add if she chatted with him for a whole year.
so that means she was interested in him all along.
guess what? ur very emotional wife is not thinking right. u divorce her and she will have no place to go. bec she basically dont even know what she wants and is thinking with her heart and not with her mind.
for the best of the kid, its no divorce; but if u cannot stand her cheating and lying and have lost respect and love and trust on her, then a divorce is the best....
2007-01-22 02:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, about the email address...i myself cant remember email addresses once ive deleted them especially if its months later as in your wife's case.
i also know of a friend who was unfaithful to a spouse very early in their marriage. they are married now for over 20 years....do you feel that my friend should tell the spouse now after all these years?
perhaps, if things are better now between you and your spouse than they were before the 'incident' (not during) then maybe your relationship can survive anything, has helped her to come to realize a stronger bond to you and your marriage.
or not.
just trying to help see things from another perspective than what you'll probably get here. peace
2007-01-22 03:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is only an opinion...you may take it or just read it...you are right- your wife can no longer be trusted. what hurts is that it will give you sleepless nights and no peace of mind..but i'd like to tell you one thing, you should be thankful at least you found out what she has done..it's alright though it reallt hurt...just cry out your pain..there's nothing wrong if you'll cry.
be brave. take the first move..file a divorce. she is not worthy to be your wife. i have quiet a similar situation with you but this time it's my husband who's cheating on me....Gob bless...
2007-01-22 04:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by mabel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Darling, you sound like a tender hearted man. You are still willing to believe in someone that has clearly lied repeatably. Then she could care less if she stays married to you or not. She is still seeing him and he is seeing her, that's why she all of a sudden don't know information on this person. She has also gone beyond talking to this man. You need to realize she's a liar and all ways will be.
2007-01-22 04:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying
2007-01-22 02:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by Say What? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a liar. Move on, she's not worth it. Even through email and telephone, it's cheating. If she did it once, she will do it again. It's worse for your children to see you in a bad relationship than it is for them to see you apart and happy.
2007-01-22 02:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants a way out but does not want to be responsoble for breaking up the family. She wants you to do it.
2007-01-22 03:19:41 · answer #9 · answered by black7_revolution 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get councelling and see what happens then. she may be bored in the relationship so if you want to save that, start doing things you did when you were dating to get the marriage back on solid ground.
2007-01-22 02:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋