...that you are really in love with your friend.
I just never knew that. I have a boyfriend almost 4 years and everything was great but then I started working on this project with my friend and then I started feeling sth really strong. Nothing happened of course, I tried to ignore that feeling but it lasts for almost a year. So who am I suppose to hurt? Him or me?
2007-01-21 18:37:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Hey life is just too short and there's no time for regrets. You need to think hard about what you feel. Maybe this friend is your soul mate but also maybe you are just caught in the routine - having in mind that you're in a long term relationship. It could be just a phase. Remember that sometimes we think that long relationships lack adventure and things but it doesn't have to be the case. Try to spice up you love/sex life and then you'll se if it's a phase or sth else. Whatever you find out be sure to follow your heart and think about yourself because nobody else will. You are responsible for your happiness, I'm sure your bf would think about himself if he was found in this situation. I'm glad you haven't cheated though, just stay true to yourself.
2007-01-21 19:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Idanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes having a good freind is better then Ruining it with Love/Emotions Stay friends with the other guy but You NEED to tell your current Boyfriend u are not sure of your feelings towards him anymore Take a Break from the current B/f for a week or so adn stay away from the Other Male Friend too for a week so u wont be confused or on the rebound at all and re evaluate what is IMPORTANT to you... and Remember Lust is ALWAYS a temporary Fake Fullfillment of Love
2007-01-21 18:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by c d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't take the attraction to the next level w/the friend until you tactfully dismiss the boyfriend. He wont be as hurt, as he would be if you didn't break it off with him, but could not resist the friend. and then it would be a betrayal, instead of a dismissal. Does that make sense? In other words, hurry up and break up with him before you cheat on him. He'll get over it quicker than if you cheat on him. That will hurt him more.
2007-01-21 18:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by flacocajuncujo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have been friends for 2 years and the two seeing people earlier we've been given mutually. He mentioned it on the 2nd date yet I wasn't specific. It replaced into fairly a delicate and slow transforming into component for me and in all probability approximately 6 months earlier I admitted it. It nevertheless grows. It does seem to me that adult males are each and every so often greater romantic than ladies!
2016-12-16 10:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best.
If you have been feeling this way about your friend for a year - then you don't have the kind of feelings for you b/f that you need to make things work long term.
Be very kind - and tell him you must move on.
Do NOT do this. .. Do not get together with your friend - or make sure you CAN get together with your friend - before you break up with your boyfriend.
If
2007-01-21 18:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a heart2heart talk w/ur bf & explain 2 him wat's been bothering u...
u shld also ask urself who weighs more??? r u willing 2 let go of 4 harmonious yrs 4 a new love???
if ur answer is YES, then its hightym 2 say gudbye & hello
2007-01-21 18:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in that very same situation. you should tell your boyfriend that you want to break up because you like him, but u dont love him, and u want to end it before he gets feelings for you, and u end up failing in love with another person while ur still with him. he may take it hard, but if he is decent he shud respect ur decision and not bug u about it.
theres no reason for u to be with someone ur not crazy about, u dont owe him anything, and u shud be doing what makes u happy. ♥ gud luck!
2007-01-21 18:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE WAY I SEE IT, HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY.
YOU ARESN'T DOING HIM ANY FAVORS BY STAYING IN A RELATIONSHIP WHEN YOUR HEART IS NO LONGER IN IT.
HE WILL HURT FOR A WHILE, BUT IT'S A LOT BETTER THAN THE ALTERNATIVE OF STAYING WITH HIM OR THE DURATION AND BUILDING A FAMILY WITH HIM AND THEN REALIZING YOU CAN'T HANDLE IT ANYMORE, THEN YOU WOULD HURT MORE PEOPLE THAN JUST HIM.
GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS.
2007-01-21 19:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to be sure that your friend feels the same way too.
you have to tell your bf also cos its just wrong to keep him in the dark.
2007-01-21 18:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by ≈ ฬ ≈ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it sounds selfish to others but I think you need to be considerate to yourself more than him ,you must be sure that the other boyfriend is really your other half and if you really think he is ,so go for him and dont hurt yourself!
2007-01-21 18:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋