I checked my boyfriends voicemail a little while ago.... I was listening to his saved messages. One of the saved messages was a girl. She didnt say very much at all. No name or anything, she just said " Helloooo" Very flirty like, then hangs up. He never has serivce at his house or most of the places he goes, other than work.
Tonight I asked him if he was just staying with me untill someone better comes along. He seemed very odd and said " No.." then trys to change the subject.
We have been together for a year and a half. ( Just incase you were wondering)
Is he cheating on me?
Should I be worried and ask him about it? Or will that give me away, of being able to find these things out?
Please help! Thank you.
2007-01-21 18:30:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been cheated on once before.
He has lied to me about more things than I can count on both hands. Stole things from me and try and hide it. ect...
and he gave me his pass code one time.
2007-01-21 18:36:41 · update #1
This is also the first time there has been another girl .
2007-01-21 18:39:18 · update #2
Sounds like he is up to something.
2007-01-21 18:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are insecure over the cheating that happened before and you need to learn out to trust in a relationship.
If all you have is that message and there are no other signs then I would say let it go for now but keep your eye out for more messages. If you do suspect him of cheating I wouldn't tell him you checked his message just yet, you would want him to get comfortable and keep checking and see what other messages that might pop up. Something more solid.
Also, if he's stole off of you, why are you with him?
2007-01-22 03:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your followup details say more about him than that one, very short voice message: "He has lied to me about more things than I can count on both hands. Stole things from me and try and hide it. ect... "
Who cares about a voice message when you have had this kind of experience with him? A better question from you would be, "Why have I stayed with this guy for over a year? What's the matter with me?"
To those questions, I would answer, "Time to break off this apparently very shaky relationship and find a higher quality individual to spend so much time with, don't you think?"
2007-01-22 02:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all, ever heard of a prank call? it is possible that someone called and just left a stupid message. don't you think you're being a bit overbearing and dishonest by checking his voicemails?
second, have you ever asked any guy a question and gotten the same response? yea. they don't like answering questions about commitment or about anything at all. it could be that since you've been together so long, your questioning his integrity left him speechless and a bit shocked.
It does suck that we have to read between the lines sometimes, but i think you misread it. I think it's fair for him to have friends who leave dumb messages on his voicemail without worrying about you finding it.
2007-01-22 02:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by lish 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say he's deffinatly cheating! I have been cheated on many times, even by guys that were truely in love with me [the ones that were usually told me right away and apologised] but he sounds a little odd, i think he is, im sorry cheating is the WORST feeling in the world! guys piss me off! no offense to any guys reading this, but most of them just dont know how to stay loyal and it sux for the girls who are loyal!
2007-01-22 02:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by cece 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u should ask him . dint put it off any longer. why are staying with a guy who steals from you? oh well just ask him what could hurt more staying in a loveless relationship(without trust) or just getting the truth out of him and saying goodbye. there are many people in this big world. dint give up on love just cause this one might me the bad one. there might be many more bad ones until you meet the one for you. but this does not mean that you have to settle for be taken for a fool. so stop acting like one and get on with your life. this is a beautiful world ! it's what you make of it. so i say gooooo for it !!!! good luck and god bless ya
2007-01-22 03:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by dounut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly that is not enough info to determine if he is cheating on you, but the stealing and lying raise automatic red flags. It's hard to trust a lying thief, they have no credibility.
2007-01-22 03:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by black7_revolution 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your imagination is your worst enemy. He probably seemed odd to your question because he really didnt know what you were talking about. When you snoop around in other peoples things, you deserve to hear or see things that make you wonder, even when there really is nothing to wonder about. I think you are the problem.
2007-01-22 02:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by Big hands Big feet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
collect more information, like peep through his stuff and get more evidence. if you do then it will help you solve the case, file him or destroy him. if you cant, then i suggest you just ask him out in the open (he's more likely to lie to u, and then he'll know that u know that he's cheatin and he will be extra careful with lover, if he is) so maybe dont tell him, it will be easier to see if he is
2007-01-22 02:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by cella<3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think hello is enough information, and I'm a jealous, suspicious person. Keep your eyes and ears open, but "hello"? I get the tone, I don't like it, but . . . that's not cheating.
2007-01-22 02:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should break up with you for snooping through his voicemail.
2007-01-22 03:21:08 · answer #11 · answered by KSUWildcat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋