I'm just throwing this out there, and it's probably too practical of an idea, but that's why I like it. When we apply for a job, we have to be interviewed, take tests, sometimes physicals, polygraph tests--to make sure we qualify for the job, and all just to be able to earn a living. When we become someone's mate (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, whatever) it's probably the most important job we will ever perform in our lives, yet we don't interview each other to make sure we are compatible and qualified to be someone's partner for life. We think too much with our hearts and not enough with our heads, and base our acceptance on physical attraction, when that is usually the easiest and most obvious factor. Just think of how much time, effort, tears, fears, and money we could save if we would be a little more practical in our approach to relationships, especially if we were looking for a marriage partner. And please don't attack me for not being romantic, because I'm very much so.
2007-01-21 18:28:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree!! What a man! KUDOS to you!
They used to call it courting (back in the day). I don't think there IS such a prerequisite to relationships anymore is there? *I think now it's just 1)Screw em & ask their name later (OR NOT)..2).get pregnant & screw HIM for child support because of your lack of control! 3) See which one looks like they're hammered enough to take advantage of & just do it! deal w/the mess later! (that applies to BOTH sexes)4) Get a venereal disease from one of the 25 partners you have had in the last year, pass it on, & take em ALL on Jerry Springer to tell them.or 5) Go into it thinking "well, if it don't work out we can get a divorce! it ain't like we were married before the kids came along anyways!
Sorry to be such an ***, but...that's me! Tell it like I see it!
2007-01-21 18:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To add to what you say, I would like to remind people that all you have said comes down to communications. A relationship is supposed to grow. Not just lay dormant until the thrills wear off. People who understand this avoid the pitfalls of a failed marriage. The people use the word love without ever knowing what the word actually means---and what it is supposed to communicate to each other. trust, respect, caring, acceptance, growth, partnership---the list goes on and on. I hear fourteen year olds say OH I love him---they don't know anyother way of expressing themselves---but it definitely is not love. I am so much of a realist--I never married--never found the one who did the real meaning of love for what I think it is---NO REGRETS about it. People don't need a questionaire--they need to spend the time growing with each other until they find that true definition---and never forgetting it. Good luck and have a nice life.
2007-01-21 18:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea is kind of scarry. I guess there are some people who are willing to do it that way.
Personally, I wouldn't simply because I don't go looking for relationships and when they find me it's more fun then going out an looking for one like a job.
This remindes me of the giver...(if I'm remembering correctly)
2007-01-21 18:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by Saskia R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, people these days tend to think more with their heads and not with their hearts. their heads seem to be creating all the obstacles for the relationships, but if they are truly in love with their heart, those couple can go through practically anything.
2007-01-21 18:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple usually spend a long time together before getting married and that is when they get to know each other, thats when you ask questions, find out about them and each other, then take it from there/thats how we do it in canada
2007-01-21 18:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you're finding out somebody for job your ideas is clean and you're able to make deceisions according to information that are given to you in resume and according to results of attempt, yet once you're in love, it extremely is like interviewing somebody for job on a similar time as being below the impact of alcohol. purely danger of springing up remarkable deceision and polishing off all mandatory exams and interviews on a similar time as connecting your existence to somebody is in case whilst there is an arranged marriage, your ideas is clean, you haven't any longer any attachements to that man or woman and you're able to be sure wether or no longer he/she is appropriate for you. yet are you helpful you desire to spend your total existence with man or woman which you're no longer in love with? i could nonetheless take of project, i could desire to make a screw up, consistent with danger some day i'm going to verify that that's no longer the guy I could desire to be with and divorce, yet nonetheless on the top of my existence i could have "no regrets" because of the fact I lived an entire existence, I made my own errors, I felt, I cried, I enjoyed.... there's no finished existence with out errors, than it extremely is not a existence it extremely is existance!
2016-11-26 01:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think alot of "failed" relationships steam from Internet dating.But you do bring up great points and it's a great idea.
2007-01-21 18:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all starts with honesty and communication remember that
2007-01-21 18:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by johny1punch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋