We are both under 30, married for under 2 years. I want to know if you think it is normal for us to sleep in seperate bed rooms? It was his choice. He says that he can't sleep well if I am in the bed with him. I am unhappy about this because when we sleep together is the only time that he shows me affection. What do you think?
2007-01-21 18:12:40 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it's not really normal. Some people do honestly have trouble sleeping when someone is close to them, but there are other ways of fixing this besides going to seperate rooms. Try getting a larger bed. I used to have problems sleeping next to my fiance (I can't really sleep well if I don't have a lot of room to move around) but we traded in our full sized bed to a queen sized bed, which has helped a lot. I still have some trouble, and adventually I would like to get a king sized bed so there's a lot of room, but in the end it's important for me to sleep in the same bed as my fiance, it gives me a sense of closeness to him that I would never have in a seperate room (plus no matter how large our bed is I still have the option of cuddling up next to him, even if it's only for a bit). I recemond you talk to your fiance, and try to see if there's an underlying problem, or if he really does just have trouble sleeping when someone is next to him, if so try getting a larger bed, it might help.
2007-01-21 18:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion...I dont think it's normal. There are times when my husband pulls that same thing of not sleeping well when we sleep in the same bed. Married couples should sleep together. It's a bonding thing. It makes anyone feel good when the first thing they see in the a.m. is the one person they love the most. Sometimes i will wake up in the middle of the night and find that my husband is in another room sleeping and it makes me feel like i did something to make him mad. If that's the only time he shows you affection then you need to have a serious talk w/him. Women are more touchy feely than men and they need to know that and respect it.
2007-01-21 19:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by swtbabygrl_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not normal, im 25 and i got married as soon i graduated from high school and we slept together in the same beds until just this last year we started sleeping in separate rooms because i found out that he have been cheating behind my back so i really hope that your husband is doing that. Just open up to him and tell him come to bed with you if not y did u guys get married if he can't sleep with u in the same bed.
2007-01-21 19:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Hawaiianlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I don't think it's normal. It's normal for a husband and wife to want to be close to each other. If it's truly an issue of physical comfort, perhaps you need a bigger bed so you can spread out a little more. Does he insist that there are no emotional issues involved?
2007-01-21 18:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal perhaps, but healthy, probably not. My expartner wanted to sleep in seperate beds for the three years we lived together because she "needed her sleep", so we did. She never showed me affection either, and I was unhappy. If it is making you unhappy it is a problem, and you deserve better. I am now with a partner who loves being around me and cuddling in bed together, and it is fantastic. Tell your husband what you need and want in your relationship and see if he's willing to make chages (if not, there's a problem).
2007-01-21 20:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by apear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it's normal. One of my brothers did that, his marriage lasted 6 months. I know sometimes snoring and other sleep problems can cause this to happen, but if it's not like that, it's strange.
2007-01-21 18:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a marriage. It's 2007 and not the 50's. There's got to be more to this. Find out what his real problem is, and if this isn't something you can deal with, get out now. You deserve to wake up next to a husband who loves you.
2007-01-21 18:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT GOOD AT ALL! He should not be able to take his hands off you! Have you tried to slip into his room and snuggle up with him? Are how about a king size bed?
You need to sleep together, make love, and just be together, it's just plain good for your marriage.
2007-01-21 18:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is not "NORMAL" to be honest I think he is cheating on you, You guys are married for only 2 yrs, where is the love? Talk to him and ask him what is his problem. Why be with someone who doesn't care about your feelings.
2007-01-22 09:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that closeness is really good, although we do need our sleep. I have never slept in separate bedrooms with any girlfriends I have lived with, but might consider it if I was really tired... maybe just for a night though... not on an ongoing basis!
2007-01-21 18:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jeremy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋