Personal talks?

Question

Hi,
I talk with lots of people everyday because of my job. I have a problem. I sometimes tell them about my personal problems. That is surely not acceptable. Every time I do it, I regret afterwards. But somehow I can't help doing it. I have also seen a psychologist but didn't work. Any ideas??? Pls. I really have had enough of being ashamed all the time. Thank you

Answer 1

Try to talk a little bit slower and make sure you think before you say most importantly. Try to make yourself think that the person your talking to is your boss or chucknorris and becareful of what you say.

You can try to build walls but this will make you kind of anti social because after a while you start to think do i really have to tell this person my personal problems or it might have an opposite effect.

You can also try to form a mental list of which people can hear your personnal problems and which people who can't. If you make a mental list then you can train your mind to alert yourself before saying anything personal to a person that you can't tell personal info. (sounds crazy but it works for me)

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Answer 2

I think that you should "build a wall" between your private person and your professional person. When people say "how are you" you answer "very well, thank you" and that must be it !
A funny thing happened to me about that: I had a German colleague and, as I was an IT manager at the time, I called her frequently. And when I said "how are you ?" she invariably would say "very bad" when their system was down or very slow, and "very well" when it was up and running!
Think about that, there is more than a story in that, for you.
Good luck!

Answer 3

Try not to do it! That's the best idea.
I really don't know how to help you get over your habit. But to help with your embarassment, when you realize that you've told them your personal stories, have a talk with them and tell them that you tend to do that and ask them if it's okay for them to hear that. If they're okay, it's good. If they're not okay, ask them to remind you the next time you started to talk about your self.