you know its a big problem between us! isnt it in future? he is ok with my believe and praying to God and even happy! but he doesnt believe in God and it makes me worried i dont know why! but he is very nice man and understand me in any other cases.i dont know what to do?can you give me your ideas about it?thanks dears.
2007-01-21 17:59:35 · 24 answers · asked by francoise v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he were a true Athiest he would not be okay with you being a Christian. Plus if you had any children he would not be okay with you raising them as Christians, just as I'm sure you would not be okay with him raising them as Athiests. Athiests do not believe in ANY higher power, they beleive that when you die it is all over, no Heaven, no Hell, no Afterlife. I doubt very much a marriage to a TRUE Athiest would work with you being a Christian...obviously he isn't a true Athiest...I would venture to say maybe more of an Agnostic, they believe in a higher power...just not God.
2007-01-21 18:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes an atheist can make a great companion. As long as he isn't radically political about it and respects and supports your religious practice, it might work out better than you might think.
However, this is one of those engagements that should last a long time - at least a year and maybe longer, of possible. As a believer, you are going to want to see this person in as many types of environments and situations as you possibly can before going through with a lifetime commitment.
Meet his family. Get to know his friends. Learn about his history, starting with the old high school year books. If, after all of that, you have compatible value systems, religious differences may not be difficult to reconcile.
One big issue: kids. You need to agree BEFORE you marry on
1) whether you will have any, and
2) how they will be raised with regard to faith and religion.
If you get deadlocked on either of those, call off the wedding. Neither of you would be happy with that kind of wall between you.
2007-01-22 02:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every person has different likings . Always see that opposite poles attract So are persons .Opposite likes each other . Their are differences in wife & husbands for every small thing so no problem . for a good & healthy relation always accept person as he is .
It is very nice that even he dosen't beleive in God But have not forced u to do the same . it is good sign.
Experiance & cultreal envoirnment make ones belives. God is always devine .He will love to every person even he believes him or not.
If u what him to have a small corner toward God I can only tell that take him to good Accident hospital Tell himabout the cases that come there . how a doctor with all its knowledge , techniques becomes help less at certain points . & only God can help then.
Best luck Go ahead.
2007-01-22 02:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by dilu 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you Is in my experience if God is not the center of your relationship, it will always be lacking. Common faith is like a rope that binds a marriage. It keeps the road smooth and keeps everyone ballanced. Faith will cause an angly man to act with patience because he knows God is watching. The thing is do you want your children to be introduced to disbelief? I could not imagine my kids growing up without knowing the beauty of faith. All relationships should assume marriage and children as the end point. Do you want an Athiest as the father to your children should be the only question. If the answer is no than it is time to find someone new.
2007-01-22 02:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by lovingmomhappykids 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have married a man hoping he would change later and go to church and belive as I do.However it has not worked that way at all even after 9 yrs he still thinks churches are only money hungry and the bible is fake.I say run run run away it will only make your walk with Christ very hard.It says in the bible we need to be evenly yolked and now I know why they say that.If you do decide to be with him know that you are looking at a rough road.Good luck and think long and hard first.
2007-01-22 02:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it can work, but you need to carefully consider the future. Work out ahead of time what the children will be raised to believe, if you plan to have any.
I was raised Christian and my boyfriend isn't, and even though I'm not very religious any more, it sometimes bothers me.
Just be sure that your beliefs won't cause you to be very unhappy about your husband's.
2007-01-22 02:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only problems that I see are with your beliefs and what you want your children to believe. Do you believe that God will forgive him and allow you to spend eternity with the man you love, or do you believe that you will lose him when you pass and join God? And do you believe that raising your children with an athiest will compromise teaching religion to your children? Is this what God wants for you? As long as you are comfortable with your answers to those questions everything else should be minor.
2007-01-22 02:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was in your exact position many years ago, and I'm sorry to say that you need to let him go. If you believe in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and he doesn't, ultimately, THAT is NOT a match made in Heaven! (no pun intended.) God would NOT want you to marry this man! Even if you are not TERRIBLY RELIGIOUS, but you just "believe" and have your own personal relationship with God, who will the TWO OF YOU AS A MARRIED COUPLE turn to in times of need, hardship, sorrow...etc. You have your WHOLE lives in front of you, and YOU DESERVE to marry someone who accepts YOU as his "BLESSING FROM GOD"-not just a "strike of good luck!" YOU KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO, OR YOU WOULDN'T BE ASKING "US!" GOD LED YOU HERE...I let my "old atheist (sweet) boyfriend go YEARS AGO, and a year later, God sent me TRULY, the most wonderful man I could have EVER wished for! We were married 2 years later, and are STILL HAPPILY MARRIED WITH 1 CHILD AFTER 11 YEARS!!! See? God KNEW I DESERVED BETTER!!! ...and so do YOU!!!=)
2007-01-22 02:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I guess you have two choices, you can pray that you will be able to lead this man to the Lord or you can severe your ties to him now and protect your heart. I would never be able to share my heart with a man that didn't serve God first.
L.
2007-01-22 12:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by tink3610 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should sit down and have a serious talk about this matter. i'm an atheist myself and for me, i dont really mind if my partner is believing in God, as long as we respect each other's belief. dont get urself worried before u guys get into some serious talks. discuss what's important and what worrying u. i am very sure he is open minded as any atheist is.
2007-01-22 02:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by Aedryna Bi 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋