I have been married for 11 mths. I have known my hubby for 4 years before getting married. When we were lovers, I do ******* and he does vice-versa. But we didn't have sex when we were courting as we left it after marriage. Now, we do have sex once or twice a week or even skip one week. But 2 or three occasions, we had twice a day. Before marriage, we watch porn movies and I know he masturbate. But not sure if he masturbates when he watch the porn alone. However, after married we watched porn twice & had sex after which. However, there's no neccessity for this, I suppose. In addition, whenever I have my "period", I do give him *******. But after marriage, I am not sure if he masturbate cause I asked during my "period" & he says he doesn't. Recently, during my "period", we watched porn & I gave him *******. I slept & he watched football suddenly I woke up & saw him watching the porn & masturbating. How should I react to this?
2007-01-21 17:51:00 · 28 answers · asked by disappointed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't. You're ok with him doing it solo before, why are you upset now? At least he's not out there getting it from someone else!
2007-01-21 17:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-26 04:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with North star, about men being visual and it's not that they want to be with that particular man or woman. It is sexually exciting and a turn on. You may feel rejected a little, but it's not personal. Having sex in the shower during your period is something you may want to try, I think it's great.
Also, are you two very busy during the week to skip sex that long? You have been together 4 yrs before marriage but still, supposedly never had intercourse before that. Maybe he needs more, or some spice. Try role playing, or pillow talk, that is HOT.
2007-01-21 18:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ehukai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just masturbation for crying out loud! Everyone does it! It is normal and there is nothing wrong with watching porn or masturbating while doing so.
If you don't have a problem watching it with him and performing sex acts during or after then why would you even care if he was masturbating while watching porn alone.
Get over it... it is no big deal!
2007-01-21 18:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is a guy, guy are stimulated by the visual sense, that is why there are so many porn movies, strip bars, sex shows, he can pick what he wants and imagine that he is there, pretty normal, oral anal threesomes, anything he wants is in the movie, if you would like too, try and imitate those thing's that he is watching, but only if you would like it too, I would suggest that if it is affecting your sex life, then talk to him and tell him how it is affecting it. If it is something other then it makes you feel bad, if he is denying you sex because of the masturbation, then tell him, if you want a larger quantity of semen when you have sex then tell him. Other then that I don't see how it would affect you.
2007-01-21 18:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men masturbate and our culture have made it so men are ashamed of it. Therefore most men will deny it, but almost all men do it, even married ones.
Talk to him about it. Let him know that you understand that men do it, and that he may feel uncomfortable about talking about it. But do talk about it.
It's not really about you. However, if you are married less than a year and having sex on average only 1 time a week, then he probably wants and needs more sex.
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2007-01-21 17:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by non_apologetic_american 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are very visual critters. When we watch porn, we get exited and sometimes masturbate just for the release. We're not doing it to imagine ourselves with the woman/women on the screen.
But I have to ask: why don't you have sex during your period? There's nothing wrong with it, or dirty about it. As a matter of fact, it opens up a whole new world of sensations. You should try it.
2007-01-21 17:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by NorthStar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why react at all? He's comfortable with you. Isn't that what you want? You don't want him to hide things from you do you? And masturbation isn't wrong so why should he hide it from you?
Porn? I don't like porn, but others do. Porn in the house is between you and he; talk it over.
Porn and masturbation vs sex with you? Was sex with you an option? If he's not neglecting you to masturbate to porn then no problem.
2007-01-21 17:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women generally use their imagination when they masturbate- men are VERY visual and prefer to use porn as a stimulus (as every sperm bank would attest to!).
Its normal, and I have to say for newly married people your sexual interaction could be considered low by some- many men masturbate daily if they are not having sex daily. Masturbation is a nice way for him/you to balance your sexual needs- better than an affair! be supportive so that he doesnt have to do it in secret, and you'll both be happier!
2007-01-21 17:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are very visual creatures and need visual stimulation in order to get off. Maturbation is a pretty healthy common human practice. If he is having sex with you and you don't have a problem with the porn in general then don't worry about him using it alone. Sometimes its just easier to please oursleves and for men to do that they need the visual stuff.
2007-01-21 18:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
refer to him approximately it. enable him understand precisely the way you sense, and be prepared to brazenly communicate it. My husband and that i went for the duration of an identical varieties of themes early in our marriage and by using communique, accountability, and relatively some annoying artwork he's coping with the enticements lots greater advantageous & i've got faith lots greater shield. Somethings that works for us -- I shop a mag next to our mattress. while he's struggled along with his temptations to look at it he is going and writes it down interior the magazine, I even have get right of entry to to ensure it and to respond to him. I additionally wished to function that i've got seen relatively some human beings on right here telling you to connect in. do certainly no longer do something that makes you uncomfortable. while you're no longer mushy with your husband watching porn it relatively is totally ideal -- no could exchange or mask your ideals.
2016-10-31 23:29:04 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋