May we settle this once and for all--why do so many relationships (especially marriages) fail?

Answer 1

my opinion is that first and foremost, people don't understand the concept of marriage. it's not dating, and it's not something you can just abandon when you feel like you have grown tired of it. and that's why people fail in marriages because they don't take the time to get to know themselves as people and what they want, and then they don't take the time to get to know the people they are marrying the way they should. it's always easier to bail out when something goes wrong, instead of to just stay and work it out. unless of course it's cheating, for me divorce is not an option. and when you sit down and realize that relatonships aren't perfect and you can look beyond the whole honeymoon phase, you can realize whether you want to be with someone in the long run. when you don't like something about a partner, you should think about whether you can live with those issues long term. if not, don't bother.

Answer 2

Well, I´m not married yet, but my parents have been married for thirty years now. I think that marriages fail for mostly the reasons given in the above answers. I must add that nowadays people marry without having a strong sense of true love. I don´t mean infatuation, but pure unconditional and mutual love. See, when there is unconditinal love, you would support anything, you will see for your loved one no matter what. You will fight for your relationship, you will listen, you will talk and have complete sense of trust for the one or ones you love. There will be no competence nor malice, you will only see how you can please the one you love. This does not mean that there will be no problems, because there will be, but when there is love, problems will be solved unselfishly where the two in the couple will be benefited. LOVE for each other is the key element, with love, you can get all the things already described for a successful marriage and life. This is also the main message in the Bible. Look it up.

Answer 3

Communication: the dying language. Most relationships fail because no one bothers to communicate. If something is wrong, or bothering you and you don't tell anyone about it, how do you expect for things to get better? The problem itself may not be that big of a deal, and could easily be fixed. But, by not speaking up and addressing the problem, it festers until it finally explodes. The person with the problem feels their partner didn't really care about their feelings, while the other is confused, as they didn't know there was a problem in the first place.

Answer 4

Because these days it is so easy to walk away. Years ago, divorce was not socailly acceptable. Now too many couples get married with the idea that "if it doesn't work out, I'll just get a divorce". People do not realize that a marriage takes work. Stress has a lot to do with marriages and relationships failing too.

Answer 5

Lack of communication and commitment. Think about it, there is nothing new under the sun. The problems we face now are the same problems our grandparents and their grandparents faced in their relationships and marriages. The only difference now is that divorce is more socially acceptable and has therefore turned into an actual viable option in correcting a relationship where it didn't used to be.

Answer 6

I accept as true with what the others mentioned. and that i think of too many human beings go right into a relationship for what's in it for themselves, fairly than what's in it for the different man or woman. you won't be able to easily have a relationship bsed on the way you experience. There ought to be greater.

Answer 7

WHY??
i don't know the answer but iam sure.. it is fail because lack of communication.. and for some people commucation is more important than SEX.
About me.., i have been married for 8 years and i just feel my married is empty.. i just feel alone.. WHY? because my husband just like to wacth his football.. and we just rarely talk about anything.. i just do not know how long this married can stay?? and because i am from asian(even i live in USA) i just try to stay on this married for my sons (i have two sons, 6 years old and 4 years old)
and i hope my answer is one of the reason WHY??? IT IS FAIL.

Answer 8

Because marriage and de factos are so easy to get out of now. Years ago people tried to make their marriages work more, because it was alot harder to get a divorce. People now don't try to work through their problems, they just walk out, and onto the next person. Sign of the times

Answer 9

1. No understanding between the two
2. Selfishness
3. Not appreciating each other
4. Always thinking about who's more important
5. Always thinking about what's more important
6. Not knowing to prioritise
7. Just plain stupid..lol

Answer 10

because people are not happy. They need to understand themselves before they enter a relationship, that way they know that they are making the right choice in respect to their life partner.