May we settle this once and for all--why do so many relationships (especially marriages) fail?

Answer 1

it takes two to tango...in marriage both husband and wife should do his/her share to make the marriage lasting...there should be constant communication...selflessness...lots of love(including sex), respect, understanding, trust, cooperation...these are factors which i believe can make the bonds of marriage strong and for keeps...

"marriage is not always a bed of roses but we have the power to make it into one if we try..."

Answer 2

I think they just give up on things. They don't realize that a marriage takes work, and changes over time. You aren't the same person you were ten years ago, and aren't going to be the same ten years from now. What makes it work is when you grow and change together, and it fails when one person is stuck while the other person changes.

Another thing is that in marriage, you aren't always going to be "in love". The ones that seem to last more are those who you are companions in. You have communication, trust, and intimacy. So when a person get's all "I don't feel the same", they are giving up on that first bump. If you want to make it work, then you'll stick it out, and the relationship will survive.

Another is infidelity. Not wanting the same in life. Lots of reasons.

Answer 3

Wow, that is so astute yet so vague.
For every realtionship that ends there is a different reason. That's like asking: why do so many of us like chocolate and so many that prefer vanilla?

The most general answer I can give is that one or both people give up. It's so hard to remember why we "couple" in the first place sometimes, we forget to think of the other person in that "new person in my life" kind of way.

We fall into habits and some are good some are bad. It all depends on who gives up and why.

Nothing is harder than devoting your life to love, take care of, and laugh with somene and listen to and be understanding even when it's so much easier to walk out the door.
There's a lot of compromise and self sacrifice involved and some people just can't.

I've had really bad and really great relationships. I've now been married for 5 years ( although we've been together for 7) and with 2 small kids and it gets challenging some days. But I still try to keep in mind what drew us together in the first place. What that puppy love excitement felt like. I try to really look into my hubby's eyes and smile when I say I love you.

Sorry if your relationship isn't working out. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

Here is my opinion, no one lives with a sense of moral duty remember is was for better or worse, not gee i don't think i'm romantically in love with her anymore i think i'll get a divorce. How about marriage should at least get the energy and devotion say a car loan does, say 5 years. Not to mention doesn't anyone realize anymore that life is not just one feel good partytime day after day. Only children believe that fairytales are real, adults should know that life if not just beautiful and pleasureable but also dirty, sad , scary, horrifying and just plain old no fun sometimes and if you are truly grownup you put your head down and just keep going through the bad **** until you get to the good. Not just pussy up and run away the first time you get bored.

Answer 5

I think the latest stats are about 50 - 55% of all marriages fail, including Christan ones. I think one of the biggest reason is people nowadays don't take their wedding vows seriously. Marriages are disposable. If things are bad at home they seek company or a good time else where and then they quickly start thinking "hey, maybe life is suppose to be like this" I don't really have to work on my marriage after all. Plus, so often we expect someone to make us happy, and when they fall short of that, we are disappointed, we don't realize it is up to us to make ourselves happy, our spouse enriches our life but it is not their job to make us happy. Furthermore, in the beginning we date our spouse, it is fun, it is romantic but then life sets in and we are bill paying and working and dealing with the mundane issues and it isn't so much "fun" anymore. However, when you try to recreate the fun with someone else remember it won't last real long with them either, the candle will flicker sure, but pretty soon life will set in with them as well.

L.

Answer 6

I think these days we have so many choices in every aspect of our lives-- Dining, education, careers, shopping, cars, media, etc., that people have become use to indulging their every whim and getting what they want the moment they want it. So, if you have two people who aren't agreeing on one or more issues, it makes it easy to get what you want elsewhere. That coupled with lack of communication and lack of common long-term goals make keeping a marriage together very difficult. It is too bad.

Answer 7

I accept as true with what the others mentioned. and that i think of too a lot of people circulate right into a courting for what's in it for themselves, somewhat than what's in it for the different guy or woman. you won't be able to easily have a courting bsed on the variety you experience. There must be greater.

Answer 8

....... because male's and female's are highly stimulated by what they see...... When a new spouse see's a hottie,..... they reject it outright,. because they're married..... This work's great,. for the first 800,. or 900,. or 10,000,. time's, or so,... but inevitably,.. a wheel come's off,.. and an indescretion or more occur's..... Some succeed in hurriedly putting the wheel back on,... and hurrying away permenantly,... and some dont!... It's basically human nature unfortunately! .... We're affected by what we see!...

Answer 9

Many reasons...
Lack of Communication
Infidelity
Grow in different directions
Age

The list continues. There is no one reason a relationship ends.

Answer 10

marriages or any relationship is 50/50 , many people will not make an effort to make it work. when we get married it is supposed to be till death do us part, but alot of people ignore thier wedding vows. it takes love, respect and honesty and alot of work to keep relationships.