why can't a girl maintain the same relationship after the marriage with her friends?

Question

It doesn't matter whether they are her friends or relatives...

What factors you think that make herself responsible for the change?

Do you think that this can be handled by herslf carefully?

Or this environment makes the significant change...

Answer 1

Why is it that guys always make it a point to interact with their buddies often over beer or soccer or something like that whereas gals sometimes drift apart from their friends once they are married? I can only assume it may be so cos a gal's responsibilities changes more drastically than a guy's after marriage. A gal may become more conscious of expenses after marriage and tries her best to increase savings. She also has the responsibility of cooking and cleaning ( that too, has been stereotyped upon us gals). And when she becomes a mother,somehow the responsibility of looking after the children falls more to the her than to her hubby. With work, children, husband, expenses to meet, these leaves us women with very little time and lesser money to spend on for ourselves and for our friends. So ladies, we have to resolve to do better time and money management and not neglect our friends and our personal pleasures once the new chapter of marriage is written into our lives.

Answer 2

Marriage is a huge life change, it takes alot of work and effort that you can no longer invest into lots of different people. All of your relationships change and become secondary in importance. That's just life, when you marry - you view life from a totally new perspective - that changes everything with your friends. It's even more intense when children come along - relationships change completely at that point. Then you have spouse and kids and other relationships are secondary. You have less to give to the other relationships and so your friendships either mature and your friends have understanding of the changes or your friends whine and complain or just aren't friends because you won't devote the same amount and quality of time with them anymore. Marriage matures you in ways that the single life just doesn't do. Having children matures you in other ways that not having children just doesn't do.The other relationships either have understanding of that and accept the changes or they just aren't so close and wonderful anymore. It's just life. I have some relatives who are completely cold and bitter because they liked the way things were so much. I also have friends where we used to see each other all the time, but now both of us have families and we might see each other only a couple of times a year but we're both totally understanding about it and value the friendship - when we see each other we pick up right where we left off because we both chose to be understanding and to let the past go and accept what the friendship is now rather than getting all ticked off about why things had to change and acting like nothing should have changed.

Answer 3

She can, just most choose not too..... Often the friendships are bought back to life a little while after. Some girls like to show there new husbands there home making skills, and it is really ok for them, they are happy and they are in their own little worlds. Usually a couple of years down the track they go looking for their old friends again, and usually appologise for the lack of contact.

Friends are often bought back closer together when children are involved as well.

Try not to let this offend you, try to stay open to the friendship in the future, and you never know.

Answer 4

I will say because things change alot, a wife is now to answer to someone else. She has to respect her partner, and treat him with the respect she wants in return. She has someone to look after and make sure she behaves like a responsible wife in the marriage to make sure she has a healthy relationship. Im sure she can make some time for friends, but she cant do the things she once was able to do with her single friends. It's about her reputation and respect for her partner. Once married you pretty much made a commitment. It is not the end of the world, make time for friends, just be careful how you do things and with who. To prevent the husband from getting upset or to prevent him from throwing things at your face, you need to know who your true friends really are, because they will be the cause for harm in the marriage at times. My husband knew all the time who was going to back stabb me half the time, friends get jealous and start drama. Husbands get jealous of evil friends, because we are to dumb to see it at times.

Answer 5

Responsibilities and challenges of a new families automatically needs more of your attention. Your immediate family becomes priority, but as u settle maybe much later your friends will have more space that at the beggining of a new marriage.

She still loves her friends but has other immediate priorities now.

Answer 6

I don't know, why can't she? Nothing to say she has to give up her friends after marriage. Of course, the relationship will change.

Answer 7

once a woman married,she has responsibilites to handle...so don expect a wifey to spend time for shopping,or girls' nite out or slumbers' party etc...coz tht aint gonna happend
a.way it doesnt mean she doesnt have her freedom..she can still hanging out with her friends but maybe once a month or twice a month......
so for those who are not ready to get married i suggest go n have fun b4 u are involve in the marriage's life...

Answer 8

Her friends are out acting like sl*ts and she moved on. Thats why some relationships fail because of bad influances

Answer 9

Our lives change. It's normal for friends to come and go in our lives. You are supposed to have a new best friend now. Get to know him, and spend your time with HIM. Best of luck.

Answer 10

Because friends get jealous and feel like your new husband is taking their place, its hard to keep both your friends and your husband happy!