so i said i had reasons for saying she was gay/bi cuz like she would always be staring at me in class..well not exactly staring but like we just make eye contact a lot since last year and its really weird but i never said anything..and like on her myspace it said she was straight. anyways so i asked her and i said had reasons for saying she might be gay/bi and now that she says she isnt, what do i say when i really dont have a reason? and i cant say that "you look at me a lot" cuz that just sounds stupid and im not that good looking anyways so that'll sound stupid...any suggestions???
2007-01-21 17:29:24 · 13 answers · asked by fefe 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
like im bi right now but im trying to be straight again and like i dont like people to knwo that i have a problem with it yeah. so no one knows about me like this yeah.
2007-01-21 17:52:39 · update #1
i also forgot to mention that i used to be a strong Christian and now i fell away..not sure if this will affect or answer or not but just letting you guys know thats why im really trying to change yeah.
2007-01-21 18:21:03 · update #2
At the moment U suspect (or have a strong instinct) that your girl friend may be sexually attracted to you. This is a cause of concern for you, as you dont want to get involved in that kind of scene - as its a part of your past. A past you want to forget.
You need not ask her the question outright , but can build it up. First it would make sense to get her personal views on gays / lesbians. If she is against that concept then no point questioning further. If she is not against gays, then you need to find out if she is just a passive supporter or an active lesbian/wannabe lesbian. Again you need not ask her outright, you could instead ask "How do you think your parents would react if they found out that you liked other women (sexually) ? ".
This is just a warm-up que & after she answers that, ask her jokingly "Hey have you ever been attracted to another woman ?"
Whatever her answer, accept & respect her feelings , then you can go ahead & tell her that you are straight & that while you like women as friends , you are NOT sexually attracted to them.
I understand this will solve your problem, without hurting the feelings of your friend.
2007-01-21 19:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point is sexuality is very rarely something that remains the same forever. It will change and grow with you as an individual. This will somethimes mean that you conflict with people who might recognize things in you that make you feel uncomfortable. Further to this the terms 'gay', 'straight' or 'bi' are far too restrictive to explain how you feel. The main thing is to be true to yourself. Don't 'try' and be anything as that will lead to more problems for you. Just be who you are comfortable being and don't ignore the way you feel and be angry or frustrated at others who might recognize things about you, you may not be comfortable with.
2007-01-21 19:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok no joke I'm in the exact same situation, except I'm legit bisexual lol not just curious. So some of the situations you listed are exactly like mine and he sounds like he might be at least curious and I want to know about my friend too BUT....I think the only way you (an I) can find out is just to ask him. Like have a heart to heart and say, "Seriously, I'm your friend and you can tell me anything. Are you gay? Because that would totally be fine with me." Good luck! Hope everything works out :)
2016-05-24 13:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, it's rude to ask someone if they're gay/lesbian. This is not something that's been fully accepted yet. On the other hand, if you have a crush on her or think you might, then tell her that you're curious about your own sexuality, and go for it!
2007-01-21 17:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sally M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is always the best answer
ps: be true to yourself but if you want to go back to bein a str8 hetro good for you but dont forget the reason or the people that you went bi in the first place
2007-01-21 19:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by HP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the guys and go find a GIRL. You know you like girls and there's no sense in trying to forget it because the feelings are there.
2007-01-21 18:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play with the words a little. Say you thought you saw her checking you out a couple of times.
2007-01-21 17:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont judge a book by its cover.
2007-01-21 17:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by djt820 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for a man and forget about her.
2007-01-21 17:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her maybe it was just wishful thinking
2007-01-21 18:06:07 · answer #10 · answered by JUSTIN C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋