Or at least the potential to be a rapist. He is very aggresssive to me sexually and seems to enjoy and "get off" on making me struggle. He purposely pinches me hard on the buttocks or covers my mouth with his hand so I can't breath during our love making so that I will flinch, struggle or even panic and try to get away. He has even gone so far as to hide before I get home and then when I come in the door he jumps out in a mask and dark clothing weilding a gun or knife and then procedes to "play rape" me. The first time I was so scared... I peed myself during the "rape". After the first four or five times he did that though, I wasn't scared at all so it was not exciting for him.
Do you all think my husband might be a rapist? Or is it just a normal fetish? And should I endulge him and act scared next time he pulls the "mad raper" routine?
2007-01-21 17:23:05 · 29 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If this is real... then he is a rapist because he has raped you. I would not let this fetish continue because he could seriously hurt or kill you in the heat of the moment. Plus... when you are no longer a thrill to rape he will find someone else.
2007-01-21 17:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by 2007 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to read this. I think even if he has a fetish, that's strange for him to play a rapist at all times.I think if he has not raped anyone then he really have the potential to do so . What you need to think about is... what if he get too rough with you, think you're just trying to get away,while he holds your mouth, never let you go and you die from suffocation? What if he began to beat you to act out his fantasy? When a person have a fetish, it have to escalate to something else in order for them to keep being turned on by it. Please be careful and go talk to someone.
2007-01-21 17:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were so scared you peed...then that is because you were being raped. Not play raped....honey...raped. I think that he needs help. But more than that...you need help. You have allowed this to go on. I can only hope you don't have children. Get a restraining order, and leave. Seek medical advice...STD testing... a counselor, contact the police and tell them your story. They may need your help.
2007-01-21 17:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by aprildin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave ASAP. You should also contact the police, in case anything happens to you in the future. This is NOT normal. This "game" is only going to get rougher! - He could easily kill you "accidentally". How can you sleep? Get a lawyer and get out.
2007-01-21 17:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can say if he has gone too far!! If you are really being raped then you have to report it! But if this is roll-playing you have to decide what is too far! So, if you like what he's doing then enjoy the ride.
2007-01-21 17:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband must harbor not so secret desires to watch you suffer under his force. He may or may not be a rapist, but he is definitely a sadist. It maybe just a fetish, but it is not a normal one.
2007-01-21 17:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by ___ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check you feelings about it.
If he just does it to you, and is safe about it, AND it's not a big deal to you, by all means indulge him.
If any of the above is off, make him get help, or leave.
2007-01-23 04:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by Don't look too close! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop it and let him know YOU don't like it and never did but indulged in it earlier just because you loved him. A man who respects his woman would cease such 'overly kinky' actions after she tells him this. Don't go doing extreme things just yet.
2007-01-21 17:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get the hell out of there personally. It might take him more and more to get off, and things could get very dangerous.
Forcing sex IS rape under the law, even if you are married.
2007-01-21 17:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by Misty 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Uh Hilda,,,
THIS GUY IS ONE TWISTED FREAK !!! It’s way past fetish stage !! He can only get his jolly’s WHEN you are Genuinely Scared-fearful- smothered- etc… and when he knows you aren’t he can’t perform??? Yup one sick puppy…..
I like the pepperspray…….running shoes….new address answer !!!
Better yet……………
Tell him “ I’VE GOT A LORAIN BOBBIT FETTISH I WANT TO ACT OUT !!”
Then say,, “don’t worry I’ll only act out MY FETISH if your asleep….”
Twisted Freak….. dump his a$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ now!
2007-01-21 17:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋