When does it stop hurting?

Question

When does it stop hurting when someone you loved and thought he/she loved you, but by thier actions after, you can tell its not true. My ex left me to be with someone else, it didnt work out, it only lasted 3 months. We were together for almost two years.
When he ended our relationship, he lied as to why, but I found out he wanted to be w/someone else. How do people who are liars and hurt someone else feel no remorse or regret. We never fought, i helped him thru alot, and i mean alot. We always respected each other. I yelled at him after and exchanged some hurtful words. But then he did apologize, and wanted to be friends, but he deleted an email w/o reading it. He was never truly sorry! I feel he was sorry he got caught. How can someone be so hurtful, to someone who did so much for him. When I saw he deleted my email...I called him and left him several messages telling him off. Is he ashamed, or can he really not care about me any more or who i was to him anymore?

Answer 1

The sooner you stop focusing on him and his inadequacies, the quicker it will start hurting less. Memories fade with time. Open yourself to the possibility of a relationship with someone else, and whenever you catch yourself in your present mental state, say to yourself forcefully, aloud if alone "I know this trick -(ploy,tactic,ruse or scam)GO AWAY FOR A WHILE!!!" Eventually you will reprogram yourself. It helps to keep yourself busy, and it's worth looking at: http://www.relax7.com/7.php

Answer 2

I'm sorry for what you're going through. Yes, he really can be that cold and remorseless. Yes, he very well might not be sorry. And men can walk away with no regrets without a glance backward. But women can, too. It all depends on the type of person he/she is. The tendency for women, especially, is to blame themselves in some way when a relationship doesn't work out. We wonder what we must have done to make him care so little, to leave us so easily with little regret. But the reality is, people can be cold.
He probably didn't love or care for you all along, not the way you did for him. So since he wasn't invested in the relationship, it was easy for him to walk away. He just apologized and said he wanted to be friends, just to ease your anger so you'd back off. Then he figured he could just quietly phase out the "friendship" til the two of you had no further contact. You should be happy this has happened to you and that you found out what kind of person he was before you married him. Now you're free to go find someone who can appreciate and love you for who you are! Good luck.

Answer 3

He most likely thought he was protecting you from the truth, so to as lessen the hurt, but a lie is a lie none the less, and they are most often found out and hurt someone , there is no time frame for it to stop hurting some people hurt more and/or longer then others.
There are many emotions to deal with, and grief is the most closely emotion during a break-up. Anger, relief, lonesomeness,n disappointment, loss of faith and confidence, fear and a dozen others all crash in at once, it seems that a lot of alone time with frequent visit from a friend that can listen more then talk helps though.

Answer 4

He might have cared about you but he didn't want you for a relationship for some reason, it seems you were kinda a temporary girlfriend which can be one of the cruelest things to do to somebody, or maybe he just stopped being interested for some reason but it was wrong of him to string you along. For you it should take about 3 or 4 months to get over the strong pain your feeling. But the bitterness could take a couple of years or until you find a good man. Good-luck, and don't call that guy again.

Answer 5

When I first got my braces, I was miserable. I put wax on them like the Dr. told me, then I got some relief. It took about a week for my mouth to build up clauses where the braces es were scratching my mouth. After that, all I was worrying about was everything getting stuck in them and having to brush my teeth every time I ate anything. The only time it was painful after that was when they were tightened by the Dr.. It didn't last long and was not that bad, I just took some tylenol. They then became a part of me for about two years. Then I wore retainers for a while which was nothing. Then I had even strait teeth.

Answer 6

Mia Mia, This type of relationship happens too frequently and it causes a lot of breakups and has for years.. The best thing you can do for yourself is go on with your life.. It's hard and maybe some kind of therapy would help... But once these people start the lies and deceit they will most likely be repeat offenders... Not worth the pain at all. You deserve better and I wish you happiness.

Answer 7

It stops hurting when you find a twenty dollar bill on the street and you pick it up and go buy yourself an icecream! In other words, don`t fault yourself for someone elses behavior. Don`t be in a hurry and try to choose better the next time. There are no guarantees in life!

Answer 8

It stops when you feel avenged, but you don't know how that's done yet. Do NOT let him know he 'got to you' that way. It's like calling a guy up to tell him you never think about him anymore!! Being happy without him is the best revenge. Fake it until it becomes the truth, and it will. He was no prize!! @8-)

Answer 9

I know how it feels. Being hurt is so painful, it pierces the heart. But as you know, us yahoo people can't stop your pain. Only you can. Just let the pain through you because it makes you stronger. Eventually, the pain will go but for now, endure it. You have to realize that this guy is a jerk and that you are so much better than that. God has done you a favor. When one door closed, another opened. You just have to find that "opened door".
WE'RE HERE FOR YOU!

AJA AJA! FIGHTING!

Answer 10

probably a little of both. you will most likely love him for a long time but remember not all guys are the same. I had a similar situation happen to me. The guy I am with now is awesome. some times we have to go down a bumpy road to get to the one we are supposed to be with so when it is real we will appreciate it even more.