figuring you can make it work by adapting to each other, changing the other person, or compromising? And how much adapting, changing, and compromising actually occurs?
2007-01-21 16:33:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Some of you have erroneously assumed that I asked this question because I'm in need of help. My question was inspired by other Q&A I have read on this site. I have no relationship problems. My curiosity factor is that which involves the failure of so many relationships, particularly marriages. Thank you all for your responses and for caring.
2007-01-22 17:04:18 · update #1
Compatibility.......I don't. believe in changing anyone.
2007-01-21 16:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by ღ♥ஐcookie1ஐ♥ღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the older you get the more you know you need/want to be yourself, and less compromising about personal matters. But you also know that you can give up things that are way less important for the good of a relationship. Getting into a relationship now I would make sure that their was a lot of compatibility, but more than that, that their was chemistry.
2007-01-21 16:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you can't change a mate, so don't expect to. If you decide to get married thinking to change him/her, save yourself the time and marry someone you are compatible with. If you marry a man thinking he'll change... he won't. He has no reason to... plus he will rightly believe you should love him for who he is -- flaws and all. And a HUGE biggie when thinking about marriage -- men don't take hints like women do,,, and they don't know what 'compromise' is. Also, men do not know what you're thinking. And when you ask them what THEY'RE thinking, and they say 'nothing'... they mean it. This is what happens -- they think "I'm not hungry, thirsty, don't want sex or beer.... I'm not thinking anything"...... they're literally telling you the truth as they see it. I could write a book about the way men enact with women, because I've been married 30 years. If you ever want to know the secrets to communicating with men so there are little to no fights, let me know.
2007-01-21 16:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I've never jumped in with both feet; it's other body parts with which I jump !!! Are you getting married or just having a quick fling?
Hopefully it 'adjusts' naturally and happens easily. But if you think you can change another person, forget it. You have to accept that person for everything they are, warts and all. You can't push the river. Who wants a relationship that is WORK!
So yes, get to know them well before jumping. And jump with your head, or other body parts.
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2007-01-21 17:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a long-term relationship now but when I was "dating" I never just jumped in.
I took things very slow and paid attention.
I've always known that you can't change people and you either take them as they are.....or you leave them alone.
2007-01-21 16:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or how about you throw caution to the wind,and have some fun for once.
Sounds like that's what you need,with all of the relationship questions!!
2007-01-21 16:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by Two Peas 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
CAUTION: just jump in with both feet and get it over with once you get the hard stuff over it will be a piece of cake until she is PMSing
2007-01-21 16:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by Tator Salad 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I avoid relationships at all costs thank you.
2007-01-21 16:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋