i need help with relationship?

Question

my partner and i have bin together for a year now but we seem to fight alot these days half the time i have no idea why. I mean sometimes it starts because i have asked him a question and i didnt hear the answer so we get into a huge fight. i really dont like it when we do fight because i love him with all my heart. i need sum advice so we dont keep fighting because it going to end up ruining ouir relationship i have tried not arguing back but that doesnt work either.

we live together and hes not working at the moment but trying to get another job. we also have a child together so i dont want to just leave my daughter and i love him to much

Answer 1

doesn't seem much like a good relationship , if the both of you are fighting alot. sounds like he wanting controll over you. , you need stand up for your self. and hope there no kids around this. not a good thing. maybe one thing you could say to him. is if you wanting respect, you have to give it to recive it. maybe if this didn't help. you might won't to contact Dr Phil..

Answer 2

Well sweetie, arguing is apart of being in a relationship. Arguments are usually stupid, unless you guys are fighting about world hunger or someone else having his baby than it's not important. Fights are completely natural, what happens after you fight is the thing. Do you talk it over? Do you both just say forget about it? Do you just never bring it up again? What happens? My boyfriend and I fight some time, but we talk about it. First he ask me a question, I don't answer a couple of times, sometimes he gets frustrated, then our voices start getting a little higher and louder, than we search through to the real problem, talk it out, and five minutes later we're best friends again. It's hilarious. But I love him. There are things that I need to work on so that we don't argue so much, and there are things that he needs to work on. Most of the arguments are my fault though. I'm not sharing or being upfront, and he wants to know what's wrong with me because he gets worried and then that's how the fight starts. We're both stubborn and we never back down. But we're both willing to bend for one another. He has changed me in so many ways it's funny, and arguments to me are sexy, making up is the best. Anyway this is about you. Talk to him, ask him what you both can do so you won't argue so much. Not at all, because couples that don't argue aren't couples. The fights are a neccessity, you're getting to know each other and learn how to be comfortable with one another. It's going to happen. But it shouldn't be getting worse, within a year it should be getting better. If it's getting worse and he's not willing to talk about anything, than things will continue to spiral down hill. If you ever want to talk more, I would love to know the whole story. Good luck babe whatever you decide!

Answer 3

I see why you guys argue. if he is a man better yet a real man, then he is probably having a hard time dealing with you carrying the weight. So right now he is very frustrated. That happened with me and my husband years ago before we got married. He ran into a hard time and we were living together. A real man has a hard time dealing with these things which sometimes makes him question his manhood. also had a friend who experienced that with her husband. just try to be a little patient with him and maybe sit him down and let him know that you understand that he is frustrated and that you are there to talk when he needs to versus arguing. But you guys will be okay once he gets back on his feet. Stay blessed!

Answer 4

By the way, who says sorry first and who starts the fight often.
The one who starts the fight often is the person that is having a problem. If he is the one then you need to ask him a definate question... does he still love you or not.
Because sincerely I know love doesn't generate into a fight but into much more love.

Answer 5

you need a date night or a weekend without the kid and away from regular home stuff. You need to get in touch with why you two got together in the first place. Go get a hotel for the night and go out to dinner or dinner and a hot tub. Do something that would be romantic and fun. Make sure it is just you two don't add couples to it.You need one on one time to enjoy each other

Answer 6

After you reach a certain age, you realize the fighting is a stupid waste of time. Maybe you can decide that now.

Otherwise, don't argue back. That works better than huge fights, doesn't it?

use i language. don't say 'you do this and that' or 'you make me this or that.' say I this and I that. that helps prevent a lot of fighting.

also, when he makes a statement, say - i think this is what you're saying. is that what you mean? no? Well, let's try again.

Answer 7

you need to give me more, do you 2 constantly see each other , or do you make time for yourself? Is there something else going on with either one of you to cause undue stress? Is there some anxiety on either part about the relationship? Was it a healthy relationship to start with? You have to ask yourself these;and many more questions.

Answer 8

If you do nothing but fight get out NOW!!! There is no need to stay in a fighting relationship. It is a 100% percent better to be on your own than to stay in a relationship where nothing but figthting and heartache is happening. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 9

sounds like there are deeper issues there. maybe you two need to figure out what the root of the problem is and fix that. once that is fixed it should cut out the meaningless arguments. pick a time when you two can sit down and just talk and try to figure out what's really wrong.

Answer 10

Ask when he is paying attention. Don't assume he heard you because he responded, vaguely, when you said something. To make sure you have his attention, make eye contact first, and then wait for him to respond before you let him do anything else.