Well I met the love of my life on line in the middle of November (we live 5 hours apart) , starting speaking on the phone 1st great visit over Christmas, another great visit last weekend
9we speak 3 times aday) , we're engaged and I'm on cloud nine. The marriage is scheduled for September. My ex and kids say "I don't know her", but we love each other and want tospend the rest of our lives together. So who out agrees with my ex and thinks that it is "too soon"?
(I'm not changing my mind just want to know people's thoughts)
2007-01-21 16:14:37 · 18 answers · asked by pedidoc43 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most everybody on the planet is going to tell you you are moving too fast. However, my whole family moves fast so I have nothing but CONGRATULATIONS to say.
Fast! I've heard of fast. My husband's Aunt was sitting in a diner and a guy she had never met walked up and asked for her to marry him. A few months later they were married, still married to this day. (almost 20 years)
My husband and I from first date to wedding day was 116 days. (almost 7 years)
My parents started dating in Oct and married by that following Feb. (almost 31 years)
My husbands parents....just shy of one year of courtship (30 years)
2007-01-21 16:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's too soon, everything is going to be in the honeymoon stage because you are 5 hours apart, so when you do see each other it is like Christmas and butterflies etc. Have you done a background check on her ? Just need to make sure she's not "Black Widow" or something. You need to be around each other more, have some disagreements..you know the whole thing before you get married to this person.
2007-01-21 17:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you won't change your mind.... but it is my vote that it is too soon.... I worked with many clients who met each other over the internet and were 'engaged,' or at least talking marriage, almost immediately, but within a few months they were 'over' and onto new partners... or worse, they relocated across the continent (or to another continent, in fact) to find out that they were extremely unsuited. I've known of only two couples in my denomination who met online, courted and have been married (would seem happily) over the past five years. So, I would say the odds are against a happily-ever-after relationship coming out of a very quick decision to become engaged. Have you met her ex-husband yet? Has she met your ex? Lots of considerations like that that go into melding the relationship to come.
All the best!
2007-01-21 16:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very sudden, but it does not mean it won't work. Of course you are on cloud nine. You are in the infactuation stage of early love. Things are always wonderful at this stage.
I would like to see you both really get to know each other before taking such a huge step and deciding to marry.
What is the worst thing that can happen?
2007-01-21 16:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I met the love of my life kinda online, we talked a few times he dropped by where I worked we clicked and that was almost 7 months ago....I'll be honest neither of us will probably never marry again ...we agree on this issue but we love each other dearly....take your time, spend more time together and let your heart lead the way....just stay aware!
Good Luck and God Bless and Congratz!!!
2007-01-21 16:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by snickers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is Love. There is nothing that can stop the way you feel about her. But remember, your children should come first. Make sure that you let them get comfortable with this woman before you make your children share their lives with her. I do not think that love has a time limit though, you know when you love someone!
2007-01-21 16:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by kris10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for it! If you are happy and you truly seem to be, do what makes you happy. It is time out for letting other people give you their opinions and try to tell you what to do. When you find love, embrace it. You never know if it is the only opportunity you will have. Take care and be happy.
2007-01-21 16:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by rhoyalstyle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I argree with your ex it seems awfully soon to be engaged. Do you really know this person enough to spend the rest of your life with them? I only hope that you are not rushing this and will be sorry later. Please rethink this and take some more time.
2007-01-21 16:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too soon if your uncomfortable with it, better make sure you know the person well your gonna marry so you don't make mistakes that could have been avoided, unless you feel you are ready to challenge anything. Just my opinion.
2007-01-21 16:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who can say ? Me and my husband were told that we were moving to soon and we have been together for almost 3 years now. and I love him more today then I did then.WE had only been together for four months when we got married.
2007-01-21 16:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋