My dads a controlling freak what should I do??

Question

My dad is a controlling freak
My parents r divorced and they moved on and married
Im still in th middle
I want to live with my mom but my dads wont agree with ANYTHING
My dad used to controll my mom but she broke free know that he cant controll her he controlls me
My dad can be violent not like bad bad but if u dont listen you get a smack ...not me the boys in my family
I cry every night and stay up till 1 wishhing i was with my mom
whenever i leave my moms house she crys too and it hurts me sooo bad i just idk
My dad has this wife who is soo matrialistic and he says whenever i want to talk to him privetly ..you can say it in front of leslie(his wife) ill tell her anyway
my dad is a ***
they think i moved on from the divorce but I havent
Please help me I dont want to feel this way
btw my moms going to court and our chance for full custody are 95%!!!! but still my dad might not agree to even go to court he scares me sooo much
HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!
theresmorenotenough room

Answer 1

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I do not know how old you are, but I think the Court will consider your opinion after the age of 11 or 12. The Judge doesn't care what your father wants, or what your mom wants. He will decide where you will be better off. If you mom is financially ok, and mentally sound, I don't see any reason why the Court would deny her custody. You really need to talk to your father and explain to him how you feel. Yes, even tell him you think he controls you. Tell your Dad how much you love your mom and that you have a hard time coping with the divorce. Ask to see a counselor! A Counselor can listen to you, advise you and you will be able to confide your most inner thoughts to this person without fear. I do hope things work out for you. You can always see a guidance counselor at school too. Good luck.

Answer 2

Baby how old are you?? I am soo sorry you are in the middle of it all. I too grew up with a male chauvanist pig and he too was quite controlling. I could not wear the colors he hated for an example. If you have a counselor at school go talk to them, seek help from a professional as this will invade your life from now on in the kind of men you seek out. Read all the books you can to help yourself but I would encourage you to find someone you can talk to a lot. GOOD LUCK sweetheart I understand and know what you are going through.

Answer 3

Well, the good news is he is not a control freak since he lets you do all that other stuff.....just not date guys. Is your Mom at home or around? If so, please try and talk to her so you can reach a compromise. If not, please try to speak very kindly with your Dad and try to compromise with him....Let him meet the guy, let the guy sit on your couch for 2 hours and watch a movie while Dad is there, let the guy only take you for dinner for an hour and time you; I know it sucks, but it is compromising and it is better than nothing. I also agree with answerer number one. If all else fails, you only have 2 more years till you can date boys , and that is NOT a long time 'atall! Whatever you do, sneaking out, lying, etc. is NEVER the good, cool, right thing to do.......NEVER!!! ~Stay unstressed and ~God bless!~

Answer 4

Why aren't you already living with your mum? How old are you? How long until the court hearing? Your dad probably doesn't even realise he's being controlling, just like he couldn't see it when he was with your mum (hence the divorce).
I know it sux being caught in the middle and I don't really have much advice for you only loads of sympathy.
I can only suggest you try to talk to you dad honestly not emotionally or angrily but truthfully and tell him exactly how your feeling and that you really want to live your mum for awhile. Don't make it sound like it's forever and don't make him feel that it's all his fault. I truly wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

My aunt and uncle had an ugly divorce. Because my aunt was an alcoholic, my three cousins were placed by the judge at the father's, but one by one they ran away from him to live with her, and finally, they all ended up with her. He was a control freak too, and quite frankly, a little clueless about how to raise kids, even though they were his own. I hope it all works out good for you. My cousins are all okay now, but they went through a painful thing.

Answer 6

ask if your mother can get custody of you 24/7 as you fear your fathers treatment.
your mother should get her lawyers advice as what your father is wrong on so many counts.
if you are of age you can pick the parent you want to live with.
get some help from school or church counselors.
try to understand that most control freaks are really bullies in disguise and you can't reason with a bully.
as far as him hitting you. this is child abuse and if he persists to smack you then you have your options too!

Answer 7

If your dad is violent, you should inform Child Protection Services. Even if he only abuses other children in the family, not you. That ought to take care of his chances in any upcoming custody dispute.

Answer 8

i am going to be so sad when all the women out there convince my daughter that its in some way wrong for a parent to be controlling.

it used to be that a parent really had to screw up pretty bad for the kids to hate him.

a woman at my work had a husband who molested their daughter. they reported him, but did it out of love. he killed himself to avoid facing the issue. but they were going to try and help him since it probably started with him being raped all through his childhood.

i could see a person in that situation having to cut their ties with a parent but honestly im suprised to hear so many parents telling you to move on from your father because he tells you what to do.

i wonder if they would say the same thing to my kids about their mom because they would rather live with me

Answer 9

If your dad is really that bad you need to go to the judge and tell him/her that and petition to be with your mom if you live in fear of your dad. Good Luck.

Answer 10

How old are you? I think if you are old enough you have a choice of who to live with. maybe you need to tell your dad how you feel and that you really need to be with your mom.