How do I tell my eldest girl about the "birds and the bees"?

Question

If ya know wat I mean. She's interested and I think she has a right to know.

Answer 1

I would be honest and open (but not be to graphic of course lol) with her and tell her that when two people love each other like you and her father and when they think the time is right, they then will decide to make a baby which involves making love, the man then will implant sperm into the women, once the sperm reaches the womens egg it will then fertilise into a beautiful baby and grow there for 9mths.

I wld then be telling her that this can happen at a very early stage of her life when she starts to menstrate and its not a good idea to be starting a family or even having unprotected intercourse without having a stable home environment first (with husband etc)
Im really not sure, i have a younger sister and gave her the "talk" and although it sounds very easy and you try to go around things and not be too graphic they then tend to ask more question etc and have to tell them the correct answers..but i know when i was tlking too her i was very embarrassed and was not sure how to go about it..but i found that telling her the truth about everything made her understand everything better.

HTH and good luck.

Answer 2

Well like the other people on here said it really depends on her age.Keep it simple when there younger but once they get into junior high and highschool you will have to get more detailed.When I was a teen my mother just said it was something shared between a man and a woman.To say the least I had to figure everything out on my own or get misinformation from my friends.When they are in highschool you have to come to terms with the aspects that they are or will be really soon having sex.It's usually inevitable,but not impossible my sister-n-law who is also beautiful is still a virgin and she's 25.Just remember to think back to when you were their age even though it grossed you out to know from your parent's or to have the talk.It's alot better then them getting the wrong information from other people.Also make sure you bring up talks about birth control and abstinence (but dont push that issue to much you could do more damage than good)explain to them that when you have sex you open yourself up to someone and you become very very vulnerable.etc etc.

Answer 3

It depends on how old she is. If she's very young like10 or under let her ask questions, you don't want to give her too much information on something that she might not even be wondering about. She might only want to know how the baby grows in mommy's tummy she might not want to know exactly how it got there. if she's older then 10 then just give her the basics... no need to get into grapic details, but tell her that if she has any questions along the way to ask you. And ask her every now and then as you are talking. Do you have any questions about that?

Answer 4

It depends on her age, if nothing else there are some good books out there for all levels, you could buy her a book, let her read it and ask you questions, that she doesn't unerstand.
I work with fourth graders and quite a few of them have already started having their period, and it is terrifying for them, because, most have had no education, from there parents, or teachers on the subject.
Sex education is so very important, but so many people out there have no idea how to handle the subject.

Answer 5

it depends on how old she is......

7-9----a very bland outline
10-11---- detail....
12+---- You should have already told her everything.

Dont make her feel uncomfortable at any cost! it seems that she may be about my age, maybe younger (6th grade) and i know that it is very weird to have your mother talk to you about those things. if she brings it up, then do what you think is right. also, try to figure out what got her wondering. i found out when a kid in my school (in 4th grade) threatened a girl that he was going to rape her... (absolutely nothing happened though.... i dont even think he knew what the word meant)

also, it would probably be easier on both your parts if you talked in private..... no daddies!!! it just makes it that much more uncomfortable.

give her some puberty books and such after you explain that other topic, and READ THEM TOGETHER!!! so that she does not read something that really scares her!!!! that happened to me and i was scared that i was going to die from using certain things......

Anyway, good luck!

Answer 6

Hi, I believe you should tell her everything! Explain the whole physical side of sex, penis, vagina, sperm, egg, fertilisation, etc. Once the physical aspect is taken care of, you can then explain the emotional side. Explain about relationships, emotions, feelings. Also tell her the age you have in mind when you think she might be ready (eg, 18, 22, 30!). Oh, it's probably also a good idea to explain about safe sex too. Good luck. Don't dumb it down, you will find your daughter has probably heard a lot from school friends or other associates.

Answer 7

hi,
go by her age. i mean keep it on her leavel. if she is in her single ages then try to be as delicate as possable, you don't want to tramatize her. if she is a pre-teen or a young teen then you may be able to give her a little more infor mation. but you have to be careful what and how you tell her. her mind has to be able to under stand what you are talking about. imean some girls are ready to hear everything a nd then there are those who have herad there friends talking and just want to have thing cleared up for them and are not quite readuy for all of that stuff at one time. i'll give you and example ;
my son at the age of nine wanted to know where babies came from . now i knew that he was capable of understanding so i got out the good old wedical book and with the add of pivtuers and diagrams i told him. and he ded understand. what i did not know was tahthe was asking not juat for hisself but for some of his friends at the school because his teacher at the time was going to have a baby and she has told them tha story about the cabbage patch. he told all of his friedns the truth and i the mom got a letter from the teach er saying i was a pervert. we talked afrte i got throught yelling at her and cameto an understanding. she would not tell my child anymore lies and iwould not kill her. so what i am saying is firat make sure you know why she is asking and tell her tih truth to her understanding.

Answer 8

u never say how old ur child is. Depending on her age u tell her. Dont go into to much details about how to have sex, but tell her that it takes a boy private and a grls to make ababy and when 2 ppl love each other then they know what to do. if ur asking do u tell her where the baby comes from/? well then tell her where she pees is where babies pop out of and it hurts like hell. im glad i was able to sit down and talk to my daughter. look it up on line and print out stuff theres things u can print up about talking about sex to ur children. just be honest and dont tell no more then u need too. and tell her its not something she goes to school and talks about. No one wants ur child teaching theres about it. good luck

Answer 9

That depends on her age. Tell her the basics about her body and where a baby comes from. Don't go into too much detail unless she is mature enough to understand.

Answer 10

Be totally honest with her, don't make any "cute" names for body parts. She will stop you when she's heard enough.
I told my kids the truth about anything they wanted know regarding sex, or there bodies. They still have the occasional question but they aren't as embarrassed as they might have been.