Am i bisexual or not?

Question

My friend told me that she was bisexual so I told her i wouldn't treat her any differntly but know I am starting to think that i might be. I know I am still in school and people just say your proablly curious and still trying to find out who you are but I don't know. I asked her to if she thought I was Bisexual and she said I don't know but i think that you probally are. Then i just started to really like her and everything. I am really confused! I think she likes me to because I told her that I might like her and that I might be bisexual. Yeah . I also like this boy at the same time but what happens if all the boys think I am just a lesbian and not bi. I still like gys but i think i might like girls to.PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

Yes you are bi.

Answer 2

I love the first answer, that made me laugh, but let me tell you something.

It doesn't matter what people think of how you identify sexually. In a few years you will have met new people, and won't even see those people any more.

If you go with a girl, you will;

A)find out if you like it or not, and thus end your worry

B)not deter guys, because guys love lesbians (or as my brother pointed out, guys love bisexual women because they can then entertain the fantasy that they will end up getting a threesome)

C) Never wonder if you should have done it.

It's great that you have a friend you can be so open with, maybe she will be open to being friends with benefits so that you can try it out and have some fun.

I wish I had that convo with (a similar friend) that I once knew. Don't wait until it is too late, but don't do anything you are uncomfortable doing.

Answer 3

Hello, well to answer your question as a gay male, I would say you do not really have to answer this question at this point in your life. You may be just curious and going through a phase, you may actually be bisexual, or you may find later that you are one hundred percent lesbian. In any event, you need not worry and stress about this. No matter what you discover you are, you are o.k. and still loved. The important thing here is not who or whom you find sexually attractive, but how you love them and yourself. So, I think you should take a load off your soldiers and just go with the flow to see what happens. I, and many many people, will still love and accept you no matter what you discover. I hope this helps. Take care and be happy.

Answer 4

ok i know what your going through because when i was in school I went through it. Ok I honestly think its because you just may be curious about anything right now honestly. Thats the hard part about being a teen. Your hormones go crazy and just about anything sounds good. I know it may be so wierd to think that you can have crushes on two genders but its just hormones i went through it, my friends went through it and guess what...? we're straight. To help you better, imagine what two girls really do in bed together if you like that idea, then why dont you just give it a shot (secretly so in case your not a lesbian nobody knows about your adventure) either way if you are or just experimenting, its nothing bad about it hey you might even just be the kinky type i also know girls like that as well. so i hope this advise was helpful

Answer 5

The very FACT that your not sure IF you like this girl, tells me you don't. You see, when we're young and impressionable (and trust me, you are) and our friends become 'different' to us, it makes us want to be different too. Not in a bad way, but in a good or positive way. After all, who wants to just blend in with everyone else? Your friend admitting her life has encouraged you to ask questions of your own, not because YOU ALREADY HAD FEELINGS, because you didn't! The fact is, you don't KNOW if you even have feelings for her! I'm not trying to make you "not" have feelings for her, after all, I'm gay! Its just I don't want you to feel that your something your not.

Just GIVE IT A FEW DAYS or a week or two. Then, SEE HOW YOU "FEEL" about her! IF you don't have feelings for her, I'd say you could STILL be "bi" but just not into her. Otherwise, your not bi and was just thrown off base by your friends admission. Either way, I applaud your acceptance and love of her as a friend. : ))

Answer 6

I don't know how old you are but as you are still in school that gives me a bit of an indication. I am a little older then you (probably about 10 years older) and all I can say is at your age it is completely normal to experiment. You don't really know what you like until you try it. You shouldn't feel weird about having feelings for her. You may explore those feelings and then realise that it is not your cup of tea. Or vice versa. So don't be worried.

Answer 7

im in the same situation as you. i know i like boys.. but theres this girl i really like and i think about her alot.. how do you let people know you go both ways without like broadcasting. and how does your partner feel dating someone who is bi... i think this pertains more to if the guy ion the relations ship was bi and dating a girl, wolnt she get jealos that hes looking at otther guys and how does she know if hes really all that into her.. ?i just dont understand but thats oddle enough right where i am finding myself. lyterally in the middle.

Answer 8

Of course I don't know enough about you to say for sure, but it sounds to me like you are probably mostly straight. I think a person's natural sexual tendencies occur without them even thinking about it. Maybe you enjoy girls "on the side". Just relax and it will become apparent over time, whatever it may be.

Answer 9

You are confussed between acceptance as a friend and sexual attraction, you are young and hormones are crazed and it's easy to be confussed like a little puppy humping everything and anything, once you get a few years ahead it will all become clear, your emotions are at your fingertips and your young heightened developing sexuality is closely linked so, just chill you are very normal.

Answer 10

Sounds like you're bi to me. As for worry about making guys think you're not into them. If you and her don't work out just flirt with a guy once and all their thoughts about you not going their way will be gone instantly.

Answer 11

Sounds like you're in the category of "Bi-curious".
Just because you have a friend that you really like, and you are thinking about her, possibly, sexually- when you actually try it out, you may not like it at all. Or- you may find yourself Bi.

Only one way to find out...