i have been raising my 5 yr old sister since my dad left a year ago (my mom died when my sister was born). i dont know how to deal with this though. the counselor we are supposed to have is off duty for a month and her boss is a flippin idiot. i dont know how to control this child though. she wont eat, she wont listen, she bites me, she throws herself on the floor. of course she is my sister so i cant (well i can but i wont) give her over to someone else. i just need help on how to control her.
2007-01-21 15:28:06 · 5 answers · asked by nick h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
been-n that you r at least 16yrs older you r very or should be very mother like. however some young moms like myself do need a little help she don't really sound that bad just relax and give yourself time to feel like a mom to her and she will be okay that's maybe all she wants
2007-01-21 15:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by ashlee s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all good on you for sticking around you should be proud of your self.having children myself i think your sister has a few emotional problems such us anger and sadness remember her mum died then her father abandoned her,try being her friend and playing games that u think she might like. make dinner fun by asking her to help and maby putting a sheet of paper on the wall and every time she is good give her sticker or a tick and say to her that if she gets a certain amount of days she gets a little reward like a movie,or something when your counselor comes back try to get her to see a child counselor remember she is only 5 so she is going to be difficult sometimes good luck
2007-01-21 23:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by jane doe_2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for your loss, it just sound like she acting out because as
a child she does not know what going on, her mom and dad are
gone and she cant deal with that, but as her sister you also
need help to deal as well. i would try to get counseling from
someone else that can help you right now, both of you need
help right now not next month. talk to legal aid in your state
and see how they can do tihis or friend or someone that
can be there for both of you. but she may not understand
this but in the end she will love you,because you are a blessing
so dont worry things will work it self out. but god wil be with
you as well. so hang in there. good luck to you.
2007-01-22 00:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the book How to Talk so Kids will Listen, and How to Listen so Kids will Talk. It's an old classic, and it seriously helped me. Basically, work on Reflective Listening. i.e. "I know it's frustrating that.... but now it's time to....You must feel....."
Then, as she gets a little older, she can't ..... until ....... happens.
Always be calm and stable around her. God Bless!!
2007-01-22 19:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's acting out in her own frustration. As far as she is concerned, you are her mother, her father has left.. maybe she feels as lost as you do. She doesn't need Control... she needs attention and love.
Thinking its time to find another counselor.
2007-01-21 23:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by bakfanlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋