My wife wants to stay in our house another 5 years. I want to move out early in 2008. Would a compromise be for us to move in 3 years, and kind of meet each other half way? We have: 3 bedrooms in our house, 2 kids, plus the wife is expecting twins, and in my opinion already more stuff than we have room to put it.
2007-01-21 15:24:50 · 13 answers · asked by elthe3rd 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find out the reasons she wants to stay and go from there. I think your family is getting too big for the house.
2007-01-27 12:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by mimiamours 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do a massive de-cluttering. Be ruthless, get rid of lots of stuff. Anything you haven't used in 13 months, unless you're saving it for the babies, should go. After you do this, you may see you have enough room.
Why does your wife want to stay? To give the kids stability in their neighborhood? If you're wife is expecting twins, she will not have the time for the next three years at least to organize a move, keep the house clean for selling it, or for choosing a new house.
If you want to move sooner than 5 years, the way to compromise would be for you to do all the packing, marketing, and extra cleaning required to sell the house. She will have more than enough to do caring for and raising your children.
2007-01-21 23:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now is not the best time to discuss moving. She is pregnant. Moving is a lot of work. Once she has those babies and sees that things are cramped she will be more open to moving. As the children begin to grow she will see it even more. Three years is a great compromise. But I will be surprised if after the babies are a few months old she chooses to wait that long.
2007-01-28 09:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by sageivyberyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does your wife want to stay? Why wait 5 years to move if you're agreeable to moving at all? What's the financial situation? Moving into a better neighborhood? Lot of unanswered questions to resolve before your question can be.
Take it one year at a time,, or maybe 6 months? There's kids to consider,, school, friends, social enviroment, convieniences, and many other things.
2007-01-29 05:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by tee_nong_noy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like nesting to me-with her wanting to stay there. If you have too much stuff-then go thru it and get rid of stuff you don't need, to make room for the twins.You may have to do some rearranging, but it could work. Could you possibly have an extra bedroom added on to the house, instead of moving? Take care.
2007-01-29 00:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF the house was really bad and you had the money.. you should move now.. you are putting off something that is going to get harder every year.you have a growing family and your costs are going to sky rocket soon. ..waiting five years for her ,three for you..sounds like it can't be that bad of a house neither one of you for what ever reason aren't ready to leave.. ,The house is a little small maybe ,but she thinks its Home.. maybe you do too . you could just add on and save a bundle. the savings you save from not buying an over priced home ,, could go for the kids or a vacation..
2007-01-28 18:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by nervous 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Staying put is less stress for you all. Can you both really meet each other half way? Why not have a garage sale to get rid of unused things and make more room? Three years sound good.
2007-01-29 20:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by Rosey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to discuss with your wife about her reasons for not wanting to move out for the next 5 years and give her your reasons for wanting to move out before. Than you can negotiate and meet half-ways.
2007-01-27 17:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....at least it is you and your wife deciding on selling your house. My in-laws got me and my husband the land and house we are living in. But the day before the realtor came to put the sign up I was told they were putting it on the market. My husband even knew but I was last to know as usual.
2007-01-28 15:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lynn N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your head is screwed on straight. Must have enough room for a growing family. I think you should pray about God's will and ask Him for an answer.
2007-01-29 15:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋