Im leavin my huby & mving 2 another state we have a 1 yr old r there legal issues ishould know about?

Question

Can I just leave before I file for divorse? WIth my son with me?

It is not that I am just leaving. I have a job in this other state. I have offered to take my husband with me and he has refused. he is not abusive but has chosen alchol and porn over his family. I would never yank my son from him. I am trying to do what is right by moving. If my husband was concerned about us, he would have changed 3 years ago when we got married. We don't sleep in the same bed and it has been several several months since we have even shared a kiss.... being together like we are is not healthy for our child either.

Answer 1

You better check the law in your state. I know my daughter can't move from the state we live in. She can go on vacation in another state but not to live. Now he (the child's father) can live anywhere he wants to. Sucks I know.

Answer 2

nope, most states today wont let you move out of state (away from a parent) without the courts consent. THINGS THEY WILL WANT TO CONSIDER YOUR MOVE VALID:

1) do you have family at new state?
2) where will you be living (some states require a pic)?
3) is there some reason why you cant get a job in your current
state (some move for job reasons) making the same pay?
4) are there services for your child at new state (schools, daycare, medical, and as many as you can list)
5) is custody established?
6) what visitation will the other parent get?
7) what is it and how will they get there?
8) does the father contest it?
9) AND SO MUCH MORE... look at the divorce links below
to find your state and find the section about custody or moving.

states today frown upon a parent moving to another state (they all want to hold us hostage in our current state), and think your primary motive is to keep the child away from the other parent. they may take custody and give it to the other parent if you take the baby without courts permission. they can also charge you with kidnapping. then you WOULD lose your son if you dont do it through an attorney and /or courts.

dont do it, unless you are SURE its legal; do it right.

contact your local legal aid office. they are in every state and most counties. look in your phone book, call your county court clerks office or your states Bar Assoc for the number.

some links; some are divorce site, just click on your state and find the section you need. one is a child support calculator; just click on your state and fill it in. some are single moms links for you and the last few are to help (the redcross sometimes has cheap cars, the salvation army helps in all areas, etc):

take your time and pick through them. even if you find one that is helpful... thats great.

mom of 4 (with an idiot ex)


http://www.backgroundcheckgateway.com/directories.html
http://www.yellowbook.com/

http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html

http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html

http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html

http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp


http://www.petitionspot.com/petitions/collectchildsupport
http://www.singlemoms.org/info/main.htm
http://www.singlemotherresources.com/
http://www.angelfire.com/nj4/njcomputerchick
http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/chapterfind.asp
http://www.mowaa.org/
http://modestneeds.org/
http://freecycle.org/
http://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/www_usn.nsf
http://www.redcross.org/where/chapts.asp
http://www.angeltree.org

Answer 3

No. If your husband can't feasibly see your child than he doesn't have to pay child support. It's wrong to just take your kid away like that. Is he abusive or are you just f ing somebody else? It's his child and he has a right to know what's going on. Be careful what you do. My bf has a son that he will never see again because his ex took off with him. That stuff really hurts a man. If he is abusive then get a lawyer. But don't just disappear.

Answer 4

You have to petition the courts to move out of state with your son and your husband has to be okay with it. You might try explaining to an attorney that your husband has a problem with booze and porn. That usually will go a very long way in helping a judge make a decision, both in a divorce and getting permission to move out of state.

Answer 5

If funds is not any merchandise, i might surely say that a cruise is the wonderful trip! %. a place which you relatively need to pass to -- like Alaska -- and sign up for a week long cruise. All those young little ones gets to be on their own and the dad and mom gets to take a seat down back and all and sundry could have an excellent time! you could spend as lots or as little time mutually as you choose for and you will meet new human beings in case you choose for to. you will discover eye-catching attractions and relax as nicely. What a large trip!

Answer 6

Why would you want to move your son so far from his father? Is he a bad father? He has the right to visit his son but how can he do that if you move to another state? Your son needs his father and you need to put his needs before your own. Don't be selfish to your son. Children are the ones who pay the consequences, aren't they?

Answer 7

Seeing that your husband prefers porn and alcohol over you, you should have no trouble in getting the courts to favor you having custody of your young child. Good luck.

Answer 8

You cannot just leave nor can you just take the child. That will damage you in the divorce proceedings.

I'm so sorry you've just made a baby and have already ruined its life. wow. hope you do better next time.

Answer 9

NO! It is not only illegal to move his son away from him but it is bad for your child not to know his father.

Answer 10

he has just as much rights as you do. file first and then leave. if hes not a threat in any way then you cant take your child