apart from love, what else would you look at when you marry somebody?

Question

is it money, health, in-laws etc?

Answer 1

Love
The rest is extra

Answer 2

It's compatibility in values/morals. Everything else will fall into play. We can compromise just about anything, but once we compromise our values, then it risks our marriage. I've been married for 10 years and it is the most difficult thing I never imagined it would be. I love him dearly and feel loved as well. If we didn't share the same values in family, money, friendship, and all those extra issues, then our marriage would not have survived so long. Find someone who is on the same page with you on the issues you find are most important. You mentioned money, health, and family. Anything else? Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

I look at them and think are they independant enough to not allow people outside of the relationship to completely change major decisions we make unilaterally without me or my input that effect our relationship.

Is she strong enough emotionally to handle both families when there is a disagreement comes. Trust me there will be.

Do the in laws love you as their own son. Do they believe in you and if things during the marriage got rough or you both fell on hard times would they back you up if you needed them.

Of Course Finances and such become a role in things.

When do you both want kids? Do you both agree on when you both want that blessed event to happen?

Is there a five year plan or 10 year plan after the marriage. Are there things you both want to accomplish together or apart?

Does she love your parents and do they love her? If there are problems between her and them you need to find out what their problems are. What this should do is show a pattern of the way her life is going.

These are just some of the things I look at.

Answer 4

Nope none of them... I would look for commitment , honesty, communication and trust. I also would want them to feel about me and marriage the way that i feel about them and marriage. I would want to love them and be loved through the good times and bad and sickness and health no matter what.... God would have to be the center of our relationship and marriage and holding hands alot and most of the time even when you do not feel like it is VERY important to me. Being selfless and treating the other person the way you would want to be treated is a major key factor as well and never try changing the other person the only person you can change is YOU!
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Answer 5

I'd look for common bonds in morals, goals and childrearing. Do they agree with most of my concepts of how a marriage should work? Do they put me first the way I put them first? Do I not only love them, but do I like their character? Are there any unhealthy habits they practice (drugs, drinking etc...). Do they resolve arguments and disagreements in a mature way that makes both of us feel validated?

Love can happen to the most unlikely people.....but that's all thats usually to it....if everything else doesn't fall into place, eventually the love is going straight out the window.

Answer 6

Well..other than love, because you really never marry for love..face it..

Money. I want a man who can support me and my son, so that I can stay at home with him and raise him properly.

Health. I don't want a man who is in bad health at the time of marriage. He he does get sick, then I stick to my vows and care for him until her gets better.

Political stance. If we are from differnt ends of the party lines, we are NEVER going to get along. If he is a liberal and I conservative, nothing we do will ever work. Period.

Health insurance. well thats self-exlanitory

Hobbies. Its good to have some that are differnt, but it's also nice to share some to!!

Religon. If your jewish and your husband is Mulsim, something is DEFFINATLY not going to work.

and last but not least...love <3

Answer 7

Look at the mom or dad of the bride and groom and you will see what the man or the woman will look like in twenty years. Some girls are hot, but there mom looks like a hoarse that has been road hard and put away wet!

The apple never falls to far from the tree and in all areas of life it is hard to stray to far from our family in all facets of life. Good luck!

Answer 8

Look at their past relationships, why they failed. Look at how they treat you when they are out in public, are you by each others side, or does he/she walk away and mingle with others, leaving you alone alot. How do they get along with family members? Did they have a happy home life or was it a broken homelife. There are alot of things you need to take into consideration, before making a Lifetime commitment, saying I do is alot easier than saying Divorce..

Answer 9

i would look at the simple sweet things he does for me. the way we can joke around and act silly with each other. being able to just look like i woke up out of bed and he still would think i was gorgeous. and we would both have a healthy living, no smoking and some drinking once in a while. Just to be happy with each other no matter what happens. :)

Answer 10

I WANT TO KNOW THAT THERE IS TRUST BETWEEN US. THAT WE MISS EACH OTHER WHEN WE ARE APART. THAT WE THINK ABOUT OUR FURURE TOGETHER AND MAKE PLANS THAT WE BOTH AGREE ON. THAT CHILDREN ARE DISCUSSED AND HOW WE WILL RAISE THEM. MONEY, INVESTMENTS, WORK REQUIREMENTS, AND CHORES ARE ALL IMPORTANT TO TALK ABOUT. LOVE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING, AND I WOULD WANT TO BE SURE THAT WE BOTH HAVE THE SAME IDEA OF WHAT LOVE IS ALL ABOUT BEFORE MARRYING.

Answer 11

Religion, Compatability, Commitment , Friendship, similar education intrests and economic class.