i can't seem to break up with anybody, i have to wait to be dumped, i've lost alot of time on this issue. please tell me how to properly handling a break up?
2007-01-21 14:49:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just do it.
The longer you wait the worse it is
2007-01-21 14:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have trouble saying 'no' to someone? It's the same thing. Fear of confrontation freezes a lot of people in losing situations. Changing from a passive to assertive person will take time and will have to come in stages. Start by disagreeing with someone close to you. Say NO every now and then. then work your way up to expressing unhappiness with the way you're treated. Next thing you know, you won't have to wait for some loser to dump you. You'll only be dating quality people who treat you like a quality person.
p.s. I've been there. You can change. You can be happy.
All my best.
2007-01-21 15:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by kimann_64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait to be dumped. If the relationships isn't working, you're better off addressing the issue(s) ASAP.
Why wait for your heart to be broken? The sooner you face the problem(s), the sooner you can move on.
I've faced my share of breakups, and all I can say is to give yourself time. Don't eye every person who comes your way in hopes of moving on as quickly as you can--that's not moving on, it's rebounding.
Hang out with your best friends and spend some time finding yourself again. Trust me, being single is not bad at all! It can be just as exciting and rewarding as dating.
Remember to love yourself first! Good luck~
2007-01-21 14:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by calamityjanedoe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it hurts to bad to do so.... the proper way to handle it is to realize that sometimes things just dont work out and that it is better to let go then hold on.
2007-01-21 15:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is b/c you are empathetic, and you can feel the way the person will feel when you dumb them.. you kne they will be hurt and sad, and that makes you sad, but you need to realize that the longer you wait to do it, the more they will hurt in the end..the longer you wait, the more attached they will be. i am the same way though...usually i have had to make them mad and dumb me b/c i cant do it..you are just a good person with a big heart
2007-01-21 14:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by kristina43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'i'm sry but i don't think this is goin to last'
'i need to find myself'
'i think we should take a break from each other'
'this isn't working out'
'i think we should see other people'
'i think we should just be friends'
thats all i got
2007-01-21 14:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im trying to figure that out myself. :-)
Good question
2007-01-21 14:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋