1.is it ok for your s/o to already be drinking when they come home 3 or more times per week? to where you can tell they have been so not sober..
2.is it ok for your s/o to stop at a club or at his family's house every single evening before coming home from work? (they are not sick)
3.is it ok for your s/o to come home at 6:00 and be asleep by 8:00 (they dont get up til 6am)?
4.is it ok if your s/o doesnt cook, do homework, or do laundry?(both of you work 40 hrs per wk)?
5. would you be upset if you and your child were in an argument and your s/o comes home and instead of trying to help they say this isnt what i wanted to come home to?
6. would you put up with your s/o drinking at work even if its allowed?
7. would you be ok with your s/o getting drunk to where they cant remember things on a often basis?
8.. if your s/o did these things on the above list would you stay with them?
please answer honnestly as you can and please no smart a** answers.
2007-01-21 14:47:39 · 16 answers · asked by crazyme 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
1.No
2.No
3.No
4.No
5.Yes
6.No
7.No
8.No
I would print a copy of those questions you asked and give it to your s/o and have them sit down and honestly answer them and give reasons why or why not.
2007-01-21 14:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by Terri R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Drinking or drunk? There is a difference. But still not good.
2. If a club is where the drinking takes place, not so good. Family is another thing altogether. I wouldn't keep a s/o away from family.
3. Not okay but it's probably from the booze.
4. Not good. Sharing is what it's about.
5. Not good. Family arguments, unfortunately, are part of life.
6. No.
7. No.
8. Been there, done that and the answer is no. You could be relating my with a former s/o.
There is no way to have a life with someone who is drunk or on his/her way to being drunk. Everyone deserves a better life than a self centered drunk can offer. And it's definitely no life for a child.
2007-01-21 23:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by Marjorie W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been married for 17 yrs. and I married when I was 17, even then I would not have put up with this type of bull.
1. NO!!!
2. NO!!!!
3.might be acceptable depends on situation, could be really tired, (EVERYDAY) NO!!!
4.well it is not OK but it happens depends on how they were raised
5. YES!!!! I would be very upset about this one
6. NO WAY!!!
7. NO
8. no I honestly would not stay, there is an obvious problem, and if there is a child involved, you especially need to leave, I would consider the s/o to have an addiction, and alcohol is a drug.
2007-01-21 23:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Beth M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will have to say a resounding NO to all of these questions. you are not getting any support in a loving marital way. Spouses should NOT be drinking to get drunk most nights of the week going to clubs after work beofre coming home is a huge no no. and maybe they do need to go to bed early since they get up early, but spending time with each other is more important than sleep. And what kind of job are you allowed to drink??? That doesnt make sense!! Household chores should be shared not all one sided when both adults work 40 hours a week. Parenting sounds one sided at your house as well...the s/o should be helping to resolve issues within the household not complaining that they didnt want to walk in on an argument. who does? confront your s/o and discuss these issues and either go to marriage counseling together or you go alone...but just go!!!
2007-01-21 23:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by janohiomom99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't live like that. It appears that your s/o may be an alcoholic. I recommend that you look into Al-Anon meetings in your area. You can't change another person but you certainly can gain strength from others who are or have been in similar situations. It's very easy for someone to tell you to leave. Leaving is not always easy, nor may it always be the best answer. Living in the middle of the chaos that alcoholism creates makes the entire family sick. Really, I urge you to find an Al-Anon meeting and go regularly. It will bring sanity back into your life.
I wish you the best and I'll be praying for your situation!
2007-01-21 23:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by puter_patty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. No
2. No.
3. Sometimes. If he is really tired from a days work or a workout at the gym.
4. No. Our activities are shared.
5. Yes.
6. No.
7. No.
by now I'm thinking you should dump him...just so you know.
8. No. I don't want a kid as a husband, I need a mature man, who realizes that he has duties and a life to share with me.
2007-01-21 22:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by White 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are married to an alcoholic who clearly does not love or respect you. Do what is best for you and your child. Send him back to his mother. Then go to court and make him pay child support. If you are afraid of him, ask some friends to stay with you for a while.
You will be fine.
2007-01-22 05:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by Trollkepr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived that life for 11 yrs.,.I finally asked for a divorce.I wish you the best of luck.Listen to your heart and you will do the right thing.
2007-01-21 22:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by tiff 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you or your s/o has a drinking problem that is annoying you. If he/she didnt have it when you got together then something has changed and not for the better and somehting needs to be done about it.
2007-01-21 22:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT okay. You need to get out. You don't have a marriage, he's married to alcohol. I wouldn't put up with it for one more minute. Give him the ultimatum, give it up or let me go!
2007-01-21 22:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by spitonapit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no not to any of these my wife would kill me that's why we been married 20 years, i do as a rule believe that the best thing i could do for my children is love their mother
2007-01-21 22:55:03 · answer #11 · answered by rainsong41 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋