Are a Few Friends Enough?

Question

Like a lot of people, one of my (so far unrealized) 'major dreams' in life is to find my 'special someone'.

On the way, I've found many people come and go, while at any given time, there are maybe 3 or 4 people who are 'real friends'... although, even that group of people seems to change as time goes on.

Now, upon reflection, I think I can confidently say that I would really like a partner, someone with whom I can share my life and who I can take care of and fuss over.. and simply, love.

As I haven't found her yet (after decades of searching *and* just seeing what happens)... and I only(?) have a few (relatively) 'constant' friends (most of whom are physically remote from me), I wonder if that situation will be "enough" to sustain me emotionally? It's a struggle even now... but I wonder how I'll manage further down the track.

For your thoughts, please.

Answer 1

yeah a few is enough...in some cases a few is better...
one true friend is worth more than hundreds of fake ones...

Answer 2

If you have a few friends that you consider to be close and true, you are one of a special few people in this world. True friends are a rare gift that some people never receive in life. Be thankful for the ones you have and keep them close to your heart always, even if they are far from you. I've known my best friend all my life and although we live over 1,000 miles apart, we have remained close, and I'm thankful for that.

As far as love, it will happen when it's supposed to happen and not a moment sooner. I'd felt the same way lately. But love finally came to me when it was supposed to and it's been nothing but happiness. I wasn't ready for it until now. I thought I was, but if he'd come into my life before he did, I wouldn't have been able to handle it. Maybe the same is to be said for you. You always want what you can't have and aren't ready for at the time. Keep on waiting and love will come to you when you're ready for it. Hope that helps. Best wishes to you, hon.

Answer 3

Totally depends on the person. Some people need tons of friends and some need only one best friend. I would think that you would be your best judge in this question. I myself have two very good friends and one friend who lives far, very far from me. I am quite happy with this situation. It is not quantity but quality that counts. If it is a struggle for you now then I guess you need to branch out and try to make more friends but of course they will not be knocking at your door. You have to go out, join groups, do things that interest you. Same goes for trying to find a partner. If it is meant to happen it will, don't force it, be patient and things will happen your way.

Answer 4

A few good friends will be more than enough to sustain you until you meet the girl of your dreams, don't stress over it though, it seems the more we look, the harder it is to find that special someone. Enjoy life with your friends, and don't worry if there aren't many, quality is what counts, not quantity....and before you know it, she will be right there, beside you where you never thought of looking. Good Luck.

Answer 5

If you are struggling now, I would think it will remain a struggle. We all need human bonds - friends, family, other.

I also have friends who are remote, and more acquaintances than that don't offer the same connection. My best friends are my parents. When I am dating someone, they typically become one of my best friends as well.

Maybe you can meet more friends via church activities or by joining a local group (sporting, book club - it could be anything you like.) You may have had challenges meeting a special woman because your social circle is small. Expanding it could lead you to meeting someone special through a friend.

Answer 6

You should be able to count your closest friends on 1 hand. However, mere friendship may not be enough to sustain you, seeing as though they live a distance away. I'm sure there is a special someone out there for you. Don't give up searching and good luck. You sound like a caring person. :)

Answer 7

i am one of those fools who beleive that all things happen for a reason and if they are supposed to happen they will happen at the perfect time... on the note of friends i do think that that you have a very small number of ppl (can count them on one hand) who you know will always be therefor you unconditionally and they may be physically afar from you but you know they're there. on the love part, i'm not very experienced as i'm only 22 but i beleive i have found the one and all it took was for me to stop looking and to be completely happy with myself the way i was and live for ME... and love found me at the most unexpected moment. i hope you find love but ultimately be happy with yourself no matter what happens because hats what makes you, you.

Answer 8

I am sure you'll find true love when the time is right. Your friends may be few but that isn't important. The fact you have friends that are there for you is the important factor. I too have few friends but they are great. They get me thru. I wish you well and know that you will be happy.

Answer 9

I don't have dozens of people I sorta know, I have a few really close good friends. I think it is better that way because you get to connect better with a few people you really know than 20 different people you sometimes talk to.

Answer 10

I'm in the same boat you are. There are plenty of fish in sea, but they dont seem to be bitting. You dont want to just dive in and grab the first one you can, its better to sit there and wiggle your worm until the right one sees your lure and is forever hooked.

Answer 11

Go a head and find someone
Good Luck