2007-01-21 14:36:25 · 21 answers · asked by godscutie415 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm so confused on what to do . I wanna keep the baby but my boyfriend wants an abortion which i would never get. I dont know how to eat or whats happening.
2007-01-21 14:41:14 · update #1
by the way this was protected every time im in that 1 % that gets pregnant with condoms
2007-01-21 15:03:14 · update #2
I'm not a young mother, but all I have to say, is your life is over. A kid when you are 16, wow I just don't know what the world is coming to.
2007-01-21 14:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 11⤋
I am 21 and have never personally had a child but my little sister got pregnant when she was 16 now 17 and her baby is 8 months. she was so scared that she never told anyone (that was responsible). She finally told me when she was 5 months and could no longer hide it. All my older sisters and brothers knew and didn't say any thing. They just let her go one with no help. She had not got any prenatal care. I was so mad but not at the fact that she made a mistake and got pregnant, but at the fact that she would be so immature and not get prenatal care. I immediately took her to the hospital. They did a ultrasound and the baby had 2 cyst on his head. They gave her prenatals and i moved her in with me. I took care of her and she said it felt soooo good to be able to talk about it now with some one that would help her get through it. By the next ultrasound the cyst were GONE! She wonders what would have happen if she wouldn't have said anything when she did. So OUR advise to you is tell YOUR PARENTS they will be the best help for you and your child. Good Luck!
2007-01-21 15:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by miranda s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to find who your support system will consist of. More then likely it will be YOUR family and close relatives. They need to know, they will end up finding out eventually so go ahead and tell them now. Your mom,aunt, or grandma can help you on getting the prenatal vitamins needed and eating healthy. They have been here and have gone through this, maybe not this young but they have been in your shoes. Get to know you and what you want. I agree do not abort this baby because it is not the baby's fault that you and your partner had unprotected sex but you made your bed and now you must step up to the plate and lay in it. You need the support of people who love you and they may not always like your choices but they will be there for you no matter what you choose to do. Good Luck and I will be praying for you and the baby.
2007-01-21 15:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not an easy road, but motherhood is the most amazing experience.
Treat your body well-- eat well, take your prenatal vitamins, don't smoke, keep all your doctor appointments.
If you do not want an abortion, DO NOT GET ONE! This is your body and your baby. If you have one and don't want one, it will be your biggest regret.
You are in a very scary time of life, you will need your parents, your friends and call your local hospital to see about a support group for teen moms. It sounds like your boyfriend is not going to be there for you-- he is too immature to be with you through this. He may come around, but don't count on it.
Crisis Pregnancy Centers are a good source of information too. They can tell you about keeping your baby, giving it up for adoption, continuing your education and helping you through this. (In the phone book under "Crisis Pregnancy Centers").
Most of all, please know that while your life will be forever changed now, that doesn't mean for the worse. Your baby is coming into the world for a reason and maybe he or she will be the one to discover a cure for cancer!
Hang in there and I'll be thinking about you alot, OK?
(((Big Hugs)))
2007-01-21 14:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant when i was 18... i know how you're feeling.
like others are saying just eat properly, stay away from seafood, eat your vegies etc etc, there's plenty of pregnancy books out there to have a read.
If you dont want to have an abortion than dont! its 100% your choice, dont let your bf decide on what ur gona do, its your body.
I'd speak with your family, same thing i did....cleared everything up and i didnt feel so sick with worry anymore. Talk to your GP too they can educate you on the matter as well as midwives at your hospital.
congrats btw, i know it doesnt feel like a miracle atm but before long your mother instincts will kick in and you will realise how beautiful it really is. Good Luck!
2007-01-21 14:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by sweeter87 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First two steps: 1. tell your parents, they have been through a lot more in life than you and will be a huge help.
2. Make a doctor's appointment. Those appointments are the time to ask any questions that you have, and also, whenever you have concerns you can call the office and get advice. All first time mothers have a ton of questions, so in that you are not alone. You can do this. It won't be easy, but you can do it.
2007-01-21 14:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I may not be as young as you, but I have a sister who was 14 when she had my neice now 3. She was scared and worried about how she was going to do things she wanted, and when the time came her mother instinct kicked in. She was great at it, and I am sure you will be to. Just love your baby, and put her needs ahead of your own. And dont listen to others when they say your life is over. Your life is what you make of it. If you feel you are not ready for all of this try thinking about adoption. There are plenty of people willing to adopt a baby, and if you wanted you could consider an open adoption and be allowed to see the baby from time to time.. Its your life you are the only one that can make things happen for you from this point on..
2007-01-21 14:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by auntietawnie 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I am 18 years old and 9 weeks pregnant. Just eat healthy, be safe, don't drink/do drugs, go to the doctor, and have a good support system. You need to tell your parents/gardians!!! They will be upset, no doubt BUT you can't keep it this secret forever. Either way they'll find out some day. Better earlier than later. Good luck sweetie.
Baby Due - 8-26-2007
2007-01-21 14:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by Trying to conceive 08 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 01:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by kunkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 15 when i had my daughter, and eveything worked out fine. the dad wanted me to abort to, and today he's not even around! i finished high school, and am in my last semester in college, i'm getting a degree in human service's to be a social worker, and have maintained a 3.0 gpa! it's hard, but not as hard as it seems. if u do get an abortion, and not really want it, your going to regret it for the rest of your life! besides if your bf really loved you, he would support your decision to have this baby, and never would have suggested an abortion to begin with. Good Luck sweetie! and i'm 21 now... if that matters, and my daughter is turning six...
2007-01-21 15:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by who me? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a young mother and I haven't had a child of my own but a good resource for those who can help you is babyzone.com. Me and my fiance have being trying to concieve a baby for over two years. I believe you are in the right keeping your child. If you don't want your child, put it up for adoption. There are many couples that would love to adopt a baby
2007-01-21 23:53:52 · answer #11 · answered by wannabe_mama_77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋